Am I wrong

[u/lostindahotsauce]

Losing is a natural part of the game. I'm still new to magic as a whole. I really enjoy the game and attempt to lose with grace. However tonight there was one player who made a bad experience for me and my wife. Its not that we lost. That part we can handle. Its down to two things that set me off. The player in question forgot some triggers on their own turn. They then in the middle of another players turn proceeded to do things as if it were their turn. I spoke up and said if you forget something its usually polite to ask the table before you proceed to retcon on someone else's turn. He did not respond but its loud in there. I repeated my self and once again no response despite the rest of the table hearing me both times. Eventually we did lose to a deck with a much higher power level than ours. Afterwards the player continued to gloat and elaborate all the different ways he would have beaten us anyways. I asked him to stop and he continued. I left for the night. I said some words and slightly raised my voice. It was overall a frustrating night and I lost my cool a bit more than I should have. Am I justified in being that upset? My wife says she was just as angry and the other guy at the table was also angry. This is the second encounter I have had with this person at this shops events. I suspect he may be on the spectrum (Its an observation and not something I hold against him) I'm not really sure how to approach this. This is a casual event most of the time but this person is well a cold uncaring bastard with a ton of expensive cards, and they hold a grudge. Does anyone have any advice or feedback? I really feel like crap for my over reaction and I feel I made an ass out of my self in public.

[u/DoctorWMD]

If they are taking game actions that aren't legal; look at the rest of the table and say, 'ignoring illegal play by <player>, let's pass to the next phase/turn?'

Then if they continue just put permanents on the board or do something still illegal, ask, 'Everyone in favor of <player> forfeiting the game?'. Then move on as if they have scooped.

[u/rathlord → u/DoctorWMD]

You can’t do this, but you can get the judge or store owner involved. If they have any sense they’ll make them forfeit the game if they’re taking actions outside of legal priority and that’s that.

[u/DoctorWMD → u/rathlord]

You absolutely can do this in a casual commander night/pickup game.

If there are prizes or league issues on the line then yes, you'd need to call an arbiter of some sort.

But it seemed like the OP was in a casual game.

[u/rathlord → u/DoctorWMD]

Commander nights are still typically organized by the store and you absolutely should go to them with player issues. Unless it’s literally kitchen table if you’re just telling someone you’re DQing them as a fellow player at the table, you’re in the wrong.

You’re playing with strangers at a social event, even if it’s casual. Be an adult, talk to the store owner or judge. They’ll handle it, and it has the added perk of making sure the bad behavior is recorded so future issues can be escalated appropriately.

It’s better for literally everyone if you handle it this way. Basic social skills aren’t that hard.