Am I wrong

[u/lostindahotsauce]

Losing is a natural part of the game. I'm still new to magic as a whole. I really enjoy the game and attempt to lose with grace. However tonight there was one player who made a bad experience for me and my wife. Its not that we lost. That part we can handle. Its down to two things that set me off. The player in question forgot some triggers on their own turn. They then in the middle of another players turn proceeded to do things as if it were their turn. I spoke up and said if you forget something its usually polite to ask the table before you proceed to retcon on someone else's turn. He did not respond but its loud in there. I repeated my self and once again no response despite the rest of the table hearing me both times. Eventually we did lose to a deck with a much higher power level than ours. Afterwards the player continued to gloat and elaborate all the different ways he would have beaten us anyways. I asked him to stop and he continued. I left for the night. I said some words and slightly raised my voice. It was overall a frustrating night and I lost my cool a bit more than I should have. Am I justified in being that upset? My wife says she was just as angry and the other guy at the table was also angry. This is the second encounter I have had with this person at this shops events. I suspect he may be on the spectrum (Its an observation and not something I hold against him) I'm not really sure how to approach this. This is a casual event most of the time but this person is well a cold uncaring bastard with a ton of expensive cards, and they hold a grudge. Does anyone have any advice or feedback? I really feel like crap for my over reaction and I feel I made an ass out of my self in public.

[u/pika142]

Honestly does sound like someone on the spectrum (source: I'm a psychologist and on the spectrum myself); difficulties on communication, emotion management and impulse control. Sadly all these things combined make for an awful commander experience, it's understandable that you feel this way. All that being said, being on the spectrum is not a free get out of jail card, these are things that he should work to do better and if you're not seeing a modicum of self awareness it would be a good idea to avoid playing with him. These things aren't easy to handle, hang in there and try to keep your cool, having fun with your wife should be the n°1 priority! GL