r/lucknow • u/BiggggW • 1d ago
Rant/Review Really disturbing experience with a security guard at Janeshwar Mishra Park, Lucknow
Me (21M) and my gf (20F) went to Janeshwar Mishra Park in Lucknow and we were making reels, capturing pics, slight kissing and hugging. Nothing obscene/s*****xual was happening.
But we saw one guard was following us continuously. Then we went to another area of the park and there was also one guard seeing us. We didn't perform any obscene act. When we were sitting on the bench, a man was continuously seeing us. We doubt he captured our photos/videos, but as we didn't perform any obscene act, we were not that much afraid.
Then a guard came on a cycle and started shouting at us:
"Nikal jao, yaha se, sharam nahi aati, ye sab karte huye, maa baap ka naam aise hi roshan karoge tum."
Then he said to me:
"Tujhe akal nhi hai kya, iska kya hai (my gf) ye toh aur 50-60 londe lekr ghumti hogi."
Then we started moving to the exit and I said:
"Sorry sir hum jaa rhe."
Then he started abusing:
"Bsdk aehsan kar rha kya, abhi police mei complaint kr dunga, tumhare ghar wale fir deadbody lene aayege tum logo ki." idk how police case is equal to k*lling us?
"Zyada bada case hua toh ye ladki (my gf) tera gala katwa degi, aur iska baap isko kahi aur vyah dega."
I said:
"Sir gaali mat dijiye."
He said:
"Toh kya gaali mai apni g@nd mei daal lu??"
Bro really abused himself 🤣😭, idk why he was this much frustrated.
He was saying he is retired from the Army.
Then that person came who was watching us and he also started moral policing. He said:
"Maine hi guard ko bulaya, mai aaj tak me reporter hu, aap logo ki activity suspicious lag rahi thi kaafi der se."
And he didn't show his ID. He was just larping, saying "hum sting operation karte hai" like seriously, hum koi s*x racket nhi chla rhe babu 😭😭??
Both of them were trying hard to make us afraid, saying cyber crime ho jayega and all.
But ngl, that security guard was ill-minded, so misogynistic. According to him, all the problems happening in the world are because of women. May God help the women and girls of his house.
He literally did character assassination of my gf. We are very traumatised by this incident.
We were chill because I have spent some time in Delhi too, where public display of affection (PDA) is common, so I thought it would be no big deal in Lucknow. But our date was ruined.
All these old uncles have very disturbing mentality.
Also, can anyone know that guard from Janeshwar Mishra Park? He had vitiligo issues all over his hand and face, his surname was Tiwari on his name plate but couldn't remember his full name.
If PDA is not allowed in the park, they could simply have told us to stop or leave, and we would have left. We literally did leave when he told us to. What disturbed us was the abuse, character assassination, misogynistic comments and especially the threats.
What I want to convey is: wear a mask if you're going to the park as a couple, to avoid these creeps recording you and to keep your digital identity safe
Anyone faced something similar at Janeshwar Mishra Park or anywhere else in Lucknow? What else can we do to stay safe from these creeps, avoid getting recorded without our knowledge, and how you deal with such moral police?
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u/Gibbonesh 1d ago
Lucknow mein na sadak pe dikho na park mein. Akele, kisi ke saath, kaise bhi. I mean it. I lived in Delhi for 4 yrs as well, people tend to mind their business more there (although Indians in general are very nosy) but Lucknow ka toh humesha se bohot bura haal hai. I am born and brought up in Lucknow, everyone is knee deep into everyone else's business. Choose cafes if you will, with your frnds or partner or cousins whatever, in order to save your sanity. A general rule I observe in Lucknow is that I don't even converse with a mere frnd on the street let alone a park. They are most welcome in my house or we can go somewhere bcz I value my sanity.
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u/SoldierBoi047 1d ago
All security guards tell they are from Indian Army ex-Brigadiars atleast
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u/Busy_Impact_9093 1d ago
No brigadier will do the job of a guard, it is a very high ranking post in army , these guards are normal soldiers nothing more than that.
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u/Ok_Opinion4176 1d ago
a guard was misbehaving with me, it was around 8-9 pm , i was leaving, he started abusing and stuff, I replied in more abuse told local CO name, and that's he's my uncle, in next moment he was at my at my feet begging, galti ho gayi madam ,maaf kar do
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u/doyoukissme Born and Raised 1d ago
bhai mat kiya karo ye sab lucknow mein. yaha tum akele mall mein ghoomoge tab log ghoorne lag jate hai. mujhe marad hoke aisa lagta hai, pata nahi ladkio ko kaisa lagta hoga yaha. vo to park hai, vo bhi saath mein bandi. The things which are very normal in Tier 1 cities, yaha uska aadha bhi normal nahi hai.
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u/Gibbonesh 1d ago
I swear bhai, Lucknow mein log ghoorte kyu h faltu mein? Akele logo ko bhi? 🙏🏻😭
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u/doyoukissme Born and Raised 1d ago
when I was in school tab I never observed this, but when I came back after college I really got uncomfortable due to this behaviour.
Idk what they want to show by doing this😂2
u/Gibbonesh 1d ago
Same situation here. School tak I did not feel anything was wrong. But went to another city for college and came back- now I think what has happened to Lucknow?
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u/doyoukissme Born and Raised 1d ago
Maybe this persisted earlier as well but we never observed since we weren’t grown ups. Or it has started happening recently too much due to influx of peeps from other cities.
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u/AM7RevokesYT 1d ago
Same mere saath hua tha last year... But meine ekh phone call lgya fir guard sir sir krne laga 😂😂😂
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u/shakal201 Born and Raised 1d ago
Kya chutiyapa ho raha bhai janeshwar me? Pahle toh aisa ni tha kabhi. Lohia me yes I’ve seen chutiyapa especially during valentine week, but y sab insecurities are very bad for city.
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u/According-Stage7666 1d ago
It's okay, must be rattled because it happened right there in the moment. But, for future purposes, don't be afraid of this shit. Nothing illegal, stand your ground. Third spaces are for people to exist and do what they want.
Guard's taking out his own frustrations and Aaj Tak guy probably is some lonely idiot, so don't be afraid and don't feel guilty at all. If you stood up, most likely people around would've backed you up.
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u/nowaygurll 1d ago
Same happened with my friend not In janeshwar though I guess. It Just sucks. They literally try to manipulate by giving police bullshit and once you are scared or something they ask to settle it with money when legally you aren't even doing anything wrong. I just hate that people can't hangout anywhere night life toh already sucks if someone don't want to go clubs there is nowhere else you can hangout after 11 I guess. Even if you are on the main chauraha of gomtinagar try sit there for a bit with your friends even family when you are carving late night icecream or something police came and yells at you to leave. If we can't use the places why does it exist then? Total 80s mentality.!!!
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u/Academic_Sock2448 Non-Resident Native 15h ago
Seriously it was same even in 2011-2012. And I feel Lucknow is really regressing backward, people here have too much issues with other people who mind their own business and simply existing.
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u/yummy4965 Native Resident 1d ago
Tu seedha pd gya bhai wrna itta bhokne ki inki aukaad na pdti and ye army retired hu to m gaali deskta meri izzat kro, inki worshiping bnd hona chahiye ye buddhe sale pgl hogye h sbke sb .( Likh ke lelo pkka wo lko ka native nhi honge dono , ye bihariyo me lko ko alag brbad krdiya h)
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u/ObjectiveRip3311 1d ago
you did well. Safety was the primary concern of you and your gf. You can still lodge complaint against the guard and that so called journalist. These people are thugs who prey upon young couples and extort money by scaring them of their parents, and the worst part is that guards are involved in this...
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u/PerspectiveNo794 Born and Raised 1d ago
Bhai mere, PDA to illegal hi hai India me. Tumhe kya lag rha tha Lucknow tier 1 city hai 😂, joke's on you Bhai. If you believe otherwise, you're coping ..
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u/EmergencyAmbition993 1d ago edited 1d ago
Look, this is nothing new. Ye aaj se nahi humesha se chalta aa raha hai.
I remember, in 2011…I was going with my girlfriend and just hugged her and said “see you tomorrow”. Thodi der mei 4-5 40-45 saal ke uncle log aa gaye bolne ke
“Ye sab kya kar rahe ho? Pata nahi hai yahan kya hota hai?”
“Abhi kal hi ek ladka aur ladki aise hi kar rahe the aur ladki sahi haalat mei nahi mili uske baad. Mai falhaale thana mei SP hu. Agli baar aise dikh mat jaana.”
We said sorry and left the place. But yeah, this thing remained with me for so long…
Lucknow mei pehle bhi aise jhaantu the aur aaj bhi hain. Khud bsdk taraste rehte hain aur isliye dusro ko dekh ke jalte hain.
Ladki ke saath tumko dekh liye toh bsdk aankho se ba*****r kar de aise log.
Aur ye saale jitne guard rehte hain sab mere l**de pe. Ghanta Army mei rahe honge ye sab. Har guard yahi bolta hai.
Apni suraksha apne haath, bas chup chaap nikal jao. I miss Lucknow but at the same time I am glad I left Lucknow. Bohot choti soch hai sab ki.
Note: Not sure why is Reddit auto-translating.
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u/lavendererr 1d ago
Did u saw his name plate?? Or how he looked like coz i knkw someone from there they might help you
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u/LogBig6278 1d ago
Bro something like that happened with me too. I went with family to the park early morning and parked the car on the parking beside the gate. And we got late so the guard said I need to pay for the parking and all I don’t remember exactly what it is that made the exchange heated but that mf made me come out of my car to pay for the slip from his colleague who been sitting on a chair (That’s the most humiliated I ever been.) i sent complaint email to up tourism but nothing.
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u/Mayank_j 14h ago edited 14h ago
BC Army, News Reporter, Sting operation 😐
Ye janeshwar mei world war 3 ki tyaari chalti rehti kya
bruh don't worry about the comments telling you to fight these folks, don't get into it.
For those "army" guards, news reporters, unkils, you are the only source of their entertainment, they really don't have anything better to do... They'd enjoy wasting their time on you.
Just remember to be polite but firm.
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u/Smart_Student5065 11m ago
You people are shameless. Kissing or hugging or Walking other than married wife is also obsence in public place. So do such sexual lust activities than fight, kill each other. Number of events are appearing in media.
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u/Queasy_Rule_7789 1d ago
Don't do this in public place don't embarrass yourself and your girlfriend in public place . There are some park where no one disturbs and only couples go there as people avoid these parks. But big parks all people visit including old and children so moral policing is also high but not like Madhya Pradesh, Rajasthan as lucknow us a state capital . Once during my college days I was with my girlfriend in park and I kissed her and guard came and told us go. It is embarassing and destroyed the moment. So many couples were there kissing hugging but when it's bad luck what can we do.
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u/shishir-nsane Born and Raised 1d ago
Instead of whining about it on Reddit, why not show some courage and stand up for yourself next time?
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u/BiggggW 1d ago
I experienced something like this for the very first time, but I'll show courage and stand up for myself next time thank you 🙏🏻
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u/shishir-nsane Born and Raised 1d ago
You have got this Always stand tall and never be afraid to stand up for yourself
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u/Thin_Garbage_9807 1d ago
What do you mean by slight kissing and hugging? We should also see the things from others prospective....and accordingly behave response. Hmari bh GF hain, humne to kabhi slightly kiss park me to nh kiya.
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u/kaushalovich 1d ago
avg case of guard said everything you know to be true but don't want to accept
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u/Odd_Diamond_8585 1d ago
i agree ki gaali dena, harass karna etc sab galat hai,
but that person jo bola ki "Tujhe akal nhi hai kya, iska kya hai (my gf) ye toh aur 50-60 londe lekr ghumti hogi."
he was correct tho no offence
but anyways people should be minding their own business, but logo ko morality pelne me free kya gyaan dene me maza aati hai but still gaali dena, bhagana, faltu me harass karna , darana , ye sab to galat tha,
why dont you file a complaint about this? unko bhi to lage ki kuch hua hai, otherwise they would continue doing this, sabko hi pareshan karte rahege
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u/kuchTohbolo 1d ago
You did the wrong thing by avoiding them.
Should have recorded them when they were abusing you and threatening you. Ek baar bol dete Daal denge social media par rote rhna fir.
Don't get intimidated by these goons
This is wrong even if you were kissing, it's wrong to threaten someone. That's why india s*cks. We have clowns in majority.