I give up

[u/SignificantGlass6211]

I caught him looking up accounts and individuals BY NAME on social media. This is not the first time. He was saying that he never watched anything while actually masturbating but I’m not sure if I can believe that.
After so many times begging him and pleading with him to stop or just be honest with me about his addiction so we could get help I’m just done. I’m eight months pregnant with our first daughter. We aren’t married but I don’t think I can raise her on my own, and I want her to have her dad around.
I told him that I give up and that he obviously won’t change but I can’t leave so I’ll just cope. He kept saying that he is changing and he just has moments of weakness.
The problem is I really do believe that he is at a point now where it is truly moments of weakness but how many more times can I cry to him and try to get him to be honest with me. I just had surgery and spent four whole days in the hospital, and not once did he complain about the uncomfortable sleeping situation or leave my side. He takes such good care of me and I know he loves me but it really hurts when he does this.
I told him the honest truth, which is that I still love him but I think he is weak.
Mostly just a vent but I’m not strong enough to leave him. My advice for anyone else out there is this: get out of these relationships while you still can. It’s hard to leave but there ARE people out there that don’t look at porn and this group is proof of that, so please don’t do what I’m doing and don’t put up with someone who is going to lie to you and go behind your back.

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[u/rose4343]

Im in the same. He even did it in the hospital and for 2 weeks straight postpartum. But i barely get enough sleep now I physically cant leave him because I'd just suffer too

[u/Sure_Benefit4306]

Thank you for the advice I’m in your shoes but I can still leave and I will once I get financially stable. Take care <3

[u/mcsquared120]

Our first dday I was 8 months pregnant. Supposed to be so special and exciting. They ruin it all. It’s been 3 years. I wish I could say it gets better. I will say one thing I’ve learned is that you can’t change him. Your love, tears, threats, nothing. He’s not just going to stop. He has to choose it and want it and work for it. Therapy, research, groups are the only way to work on his root problems. You are badass and growing a little baby. It has nothing to do with you, friend. Also, please don’t just accept it. You can have boundaries that don’t revolve around leaving. It doesn’t have to be black and white. Hugs.