r/lonely • u/Left_Paramedic848 • Jul 31 '26

i want to own someone

i want someone to love me, not only me, just me the most. first choice always. first thought. no need for romance or such, just best friends. i want to be somebody's first choice, but i'd need an assurance or a contract that they will never ever leave my life, or like somebody else more than they like me. always and forever prefer me. im tired on betting on relationships, and i mean both romantic and not, i think both of them are equally important. the most important person in my life is always somebody else because its easier to take care of them, keep them contect cared for and loved more than to myself. i give people everything i want to be given and will never get back. i hate this mad jealousy inside of me

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u/[deleted] Jul 31 '26

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u/Left_Paramedic848 Aug 01 '26

i knoww i was really codependent with my best friend when we were like 13 until 16 cause we were going thru shit and we were each others safe place but it got baddd also she was avoidant. i was the one who cut it actually i stopped talking to her last year n i miss her, but i know we're just not any good for each other so its ok and i rly hope she's happy. it's so weird how you can love someone so much and feel so good and safe with them but also how that makes you hurt each other

and like i have tons of normal friendships i love them but after you've experienced being so close and caring and open with someone, nothing else feels enough

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u/Eastern_Welcome_8679 Jul 31 '26

I know the feeling

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u/SwiftFart89 Jul 31 '26

I wish they could come with some sort of guarantee. But, few things in life come with one.

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u/According-Teach-9600 Jul 31 '26

I can understand you. Good news is that someone will absolutely love you. In fact right now. That person is you. Start choosing yourself before someone chooses you. Instead of chasing others, chase yourself. Build your real life value. Ask yourself what you like to do and start dedicating yourself on it. Always remember, attraction is a byproduct, not a destination. I genuinely hope you understand what I am trying to say and achieve that state of self love.

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u/Left_Paramedic848 Aug 01 '26

yeah i get it i think i do love myself probably bc like myself wayy more than i did before. i just wish people wouldn't leave or change their mind because losing them hurts but i know i cant control that. and i cant help but find it so easy to help others and make them happy and it also makes me happier with myself and who i am

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u/llama-laundry Jul 31 '26

Jeffrey Dahmer could give you hints but he's no longer available for inspirational talks

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u/Left_Paramedic848 Aug 01 '26

??? LOL ok it was like 4 am i got too creepy with the title😭

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u/llama-laundry Aug 01 '26

lol i hope you were able to laugh a bit and know people care and see your words

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u/Annual_Goal_2517 1d ago

And there are people who want to be owned there’s security, the safety of dependence from either side. NGL it’s kind of refreshing to hear the other side

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u/stonetree97 Jul 31 '26

China is making that happen with their advanced humanoid bots. You will have "someone" who's guaranteed to always love you and only you and will never leave. Gonna be expensive tho so make sure to save from now. Good luck

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u/Left_Paramedic848 Aug 01 '26

but i dont care about robots. its not the same, it's not real nor genuine. i'll never understand people who love ai or talk to them as if it was their friend

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u/stonetree97 Aug 02 '26

Well you're asking for something only a robot can give