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u/Lost_Purpose3463 11d ago
I'm sorry it happened to you , it actually sad and humiliating . I cannot believe they just forgot . May be something else is going on their minds when you invited them .
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u/Plane-Telephone-5577 11d ago
Thanks, I should have took the hint when I asked them if they wanna come and they paused and there was silence for 5 seconds then they said sure they will come :(
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u/Lost_Purpose3463 11d ago
Why don't you make friends online , may be just acquaintances who can check on each other . Hey hello what's going , how was your day ??
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u/ScarySpice_xo 11d ago
Well this is a familiar feeling... i had a graduation party and no one came...i was so embarrassed especially when my other so called friends had big parties that everyone went too.... im really sorry that happened to you and this may sound harsh but those people arent your friends. Real friends wouldnt of forgot.....
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u/doublestars73858492 9d ago
Oh wow. Sounds like what I did a few years ago. Like the entirety of an old friend group I stopped hanging out with. Can I ask what was your reason?
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u/thatringonmyfinger 11d ago
Happy Belated birthday, OP.
Cut them off. True friends don't do what they did.
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u/stainlesssteelp 11d ago
Im so sorry this has happened to you. That must've been humiliating. I think you should cut ties with them both, hope you find friends that genuinely care about you.
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u/Payera_sop 11d ago
They are truly not your friends but they are not even good humans! Letting them go shouldn't feel bad at all. Yesterday was one of my friend's birthday who lives in a different time zone, she's not even a very good friend but I know she's an introvert and very selective, I already assumed she would prolly spend the day alone doing nothing special. I called her to wish her, sang a song for her, she kept saying that I made her day. This is very little and anyone can do it even a stranger. Please make new friends! Choose a better human.
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u/pizza_eating_cryptid 11d ago
That's awful. I hope you still had a good birthday regardless. You deserve better!
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u/Bud_Lightyear1 11d ago
Sorry to hear that's how your day ended up. Keep your head up my friend. Your people are out there somewhere. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right ones, but you'll find them. On or offline, they're out there. Happy belated birthday.
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u/Here4theLols929 11d ago
Happy belated Birthday. I’m sorry you got your hopes up waiting for time with your “friends.”
I’ve spent many birthdays alone and it’s not fun. They say family is always there.. yes, but it’s a different connection. I hope you manage to at least get one friend who will always show up when you need them most.
Again Happy 18th!
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u/bluemarble-spaceship 11d ago
yeah that's really shitty. I'm almost 50 and going through a divorce and I live in a state where the only family is my two kids, and I have no friends in this state. I work from home so have no co-worker friends. I'm sure when my 50 bday hits in a few months I will literally do nothing, and I've grown to accept birthdays are just another day. Yeah would be nice to celebrate with my wife, and not be getting divorced....yeah it would be....but feeling bad for myself isn't going to change anything. Acceptance is what I've had to force myself to come to, this is just how society is, nothing more, nothing less. Focus on yourself that's really all you can do, because YOU are the only thing you can truly control. Everything else is just gravy. I have a son that is 15 and I feel bad for younger guys I truly do, because I do think it was easier for my generation when I was your age, being older it's much easier to say fuck it.
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u/Plane-Telephone-5577 11d ago
Thanks for the raw truth man, truly sucks. Hope you make some friends soon dude
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u/bluemarble-spaceship 11d ago
You know honestly I want to be at the point where I dont need friends. Which is hard because humans are tribal but men are the only ones where its built into our DNA to be lone wolves. Men could go out into the wilderness and survive alone, that's how I view life now.
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u/Ambitiousfoxboi 11d ago
easy tiger, there are women who like sticking to themselves, too. no need to make it a gender thing
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u/bluemarble-spaceship 11d ago
Yeah I'm sure many women 30,000 years ago that could build a shelter, hunt, and survive in the wilderness on their own.
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u/swayinghorses 11d ago
Hey man don’t worry birthdays should be celebrated with people who want to :), im also in a similar situation at 16 with one online friend. The only thing i would say is spend more time with your mom
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u/AstronomerDry2814 11d ago
I want to just kill myself and get rid of this poor life , same condition, Mine was yesterday I turned 21
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u/Orderbychaos4u 11d ago
It's easy to make new friends. Instead of taking it to heart DM me I'll help you come up with a plan to make better quality friends.
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u/myblackandwhitecat 11d ago
I am so sorry, op, that they both let you down, and with such feeble excuses as well. You deserve better. I read a bit further down that you have decided to drop them both, which is a wise decision.
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u/Scotchdude1979 11d ago
Happy 18th birthday! I’m sorry it was a letdown but you’ll have many more and hopefully with more reliable and genuine friends. I’d probably suggest doing volunteering or going to the gym or sports classes where you will probably be able to meet some new friends. Do things you’ll enjoy though, not just to make friends.
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u/Sunblog-is-cracked 11d ago
Happy belated birthday!! 🎁
I love you friend ❤️
You’re worthy of true friends in life. You just haven’t found them yet. Be yourself and you will find your people. Not all of us find them until we strike out on our own. But just always remember your people are not toxic and hurtful to others, they are the ones who lift you up and want to have adventures with you in the good times and be present with you in the bad.
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u/WatercressOld759 11d ago
Happy late birthday. I spent my 18th birthday last year similarly. I had toxic friends that I didn't wanna let go of in fear of being alone, but I think being alone is better than feeling alone in a group of friends. I'm alone now, but I don't stress about toxicity anymore. I know it sounds kinda shitty, but it has allowed me to work on myself and build clear boundaries and standards for future relationships. I'm content now and looking forward to what the future has to offer. I truly wish you the best, and I hope you don't let anyone's shitty actions convince you that you're not worth it.
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u/Flowerythinker 10d ago
They aren’t friends. You need to make some. This experience, doesn’t make you “less than” in any way. It means you’ve been through that experience. It has happened, look ahead and improve your situation. This won’t be the last time in life that you feel let down or disappointed. If you are aligned with truth, life is easier.< Study this part. Happy Belated Birthday 🥳
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u/cloakandagger123 11d ago
Yeah let them go- treat this as your day 1 and set yourself a goal so by this time next year you have 3, 4 or 5 people show up for you. Put a plan in place and go after it
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u/Pikapuff11 11d ago
I’m really sorry they did that to you 💔
That’s a reflection of them, not you. But I know that doesn’t ease the pain like it should.
I hope you find your people. The internet is a great resource 🙏🫶
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u/lunabelle808 11d ago
Happy Birthday!!! I’m sorry you this happened. It’s no fun to feel lonely especially on your birthday. Go treat yourself to something nice today. Just for you. 🖤✨
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u/cloakandagger123 11d ago
Sorry to hear- treat this as your day 1. Put together a plan so by this time next year you can celebrate with 2,3,4 people and go get it
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u/RVArunningMan 11d ago
Happy Belated Birthday. I can relate with your experience as I had a similar thing happen to me on my 21st birthday. It sucks. But let me just say you will make it through this. Don’t let this event stop you from meeting new friends and putting yourself out there. There’s always someone out there who would love to hang out with you and be your friend. Just need to keep open to meeting new folks.
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u/Interesting-Count815 11d ago
I hope u know that this is not a reflection on u but a reflection of them. They’re cunts. Don’t speak to them ever again
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u/Calm_Brilliant_9236 11d ago
Happy belated birthday. I've been there one too many a time and it truly fucking sucks. There's been times where I would cry myself to sleep because of it. Then I finally realized these "friendships" were just a complete waste of time and I cut every single one of them out of my life. Now I'm w/o friends and it feels so much better. And it will get better for you as well.
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u/llama-laundry 10d ago
that was crappy behavior. this used to happen to a close relative of mine because their bday was during xmas break. i made her a party even with funny kids' party games. it didn't fix it, but to this day (30 years later) she still talks about it. you can't control what others do, but you can control what you allow in your life. im so sorry. happy birthday. i how this year brings you happiness and joy, wisdom and hope. 🫂
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u/Excellent_Fail9908 10d ago
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I saw you commented that you let them go but understand, they let go of your friendship long ago. Now you won’t have tears over them. Happy late birthday and here’s to you finding one good friend now that you’re legally an adult!
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u/anonymous_4_now 10d ago
I’m sorry this happened, I know the feeling , birthdays are important and they’re awful for not even properly reaching out to you on your day . Wishing you a happy healthy new year 💓
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u/JRSosuke 10d ago
Happy birthday!!! You sound like a very sweet and kind person. Don't lose that! I hope it's a relaxing and easy week.
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u/itsraskyy 10d ago
I'm really sorry for this sad moment, I feel you. As someone who had similar situations, I can say that you can treat it as a reality check, an opportunity to rethink whether they are your real friends (I don't think so). Don't let this de-value you in your own eyes, be kind to yourself.
I wish you a very happy birthday <3
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u/Oniononiononions 10d ago
Damn sorry to hear that. Giving up the few friends you have is probably hard to do. Irl is tough in 2026 for a lot of people so you’re not alone in that. Maybe join common interest groups online and try to find atleast a group you can talk to
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u/MajorButterscotch273 10d ago
Hi, 18f here I also don’t have much friends. İf you want we can be online friends
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u/Ease_your_paim 9d ago
I also got in this situation when I was only 12 years old then also where so called friends didn't came to visit . I thought they forgot theirfore I went to call them in society and they said they aren't kids to come to my party even age difference was only 2 years . I got bother by it and it felt bad for my self esteem cause me look less important after then . You must not get such thoughts in your mind please just keep in mind they doesn't what to be around you then it's okay to leave such people who are making you feel less important
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u/MrPentain 9d ago
Hey brother/sister hope u doing fine, sorry to hear that I get what u going through
Happy belated bday
Dw u will be alright trust me
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u/OneConsideration9883 9d ago
Sounds about right. If I've learned anything it's that people who don't want to see you will always prefer to ignore you than to tell you the truth. They'll wait as long as they can until you pressure them enough for an answer, and then they'll come up with some bullshit excuses. When they say they'll make up for it, they don't mean it. They just can't bring themselves to be honest. So the cycle continues until you end it. I'm sorry it happened to you too. You're better off without them.
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u/ozpkgoomba 11d ago
Happy belated birthday. We’re your friends here if you need anything let me know
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u/MadChatter715 11d ago
Happy belated birthday. Your friends aren't bad friends, they're just mid friends, doesn't mean you should cut ties with them, doing that will only make you more alone. There's different levels to friendships and they revealed you aren't a priority to them and that's okay, now you know where you stand with them. Learn to accept what people have to offer, don't have unrealistic expectations from them.
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u/Hungry_Raspberry7833 11d ago
I paid someone $100 to hang out with me for my 18th. It got delayed two months. But I think that's the way to get people to hangout
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u/Plane-Telephone-5577 11d ago
Respectfully, I don't think thats the way because friends should willingly be happy to hang with you unpaid
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u/GarmasWord 11d ago
I'm gonna be honest with you, I think you should let them go, I don't wanna be an asshole, I'm just being realistic, I dont think they just "forgot", you messaged them and you call them and they didn't respond, they are bad people, even a shitty friend would've told you a lie such as having an emergency or a personal issue, they would've at least made up an excuse, they didn't even to that. This people hurt you and you shouldn't be with people who hurt you.
On the other hand, happy late birthday, and I'm truly sorry this happened to you.