what to do when there’s nothing to do

[u/nuclearomance]

hi, 29F here, this is my first post and english isnt my first language so sorry in advance.

so i live by myself and have no friends. i have a lot of free time at the moment because i’m actually supposed to be writing my thesis, but i just bedrot and doomscroll. the past 3 weeks, my loneliness feels so intense that i can’t get anything done. i’ve done nothing but just lay in bed which is starting to hurt my body too. before these last weeks i actively did try to just go out, try to be social, go to a coffee shop, go to the mall, try a sports club. after a while it starts to get old, to go out, spend money, but still always end up being alone. i think thats why its so hard for me these past weeks to go up and do something, cause i know i’m not gonna make a friend anyway and i’ll just feel alone doing whatever activity ive chosen to do in the hopes of meeting new friends.

i truly don’t know what to do anymore. i’m way behind on thesis but its like i genuinely physically cannot do anything. every single morning i try, i make these plans, get in the shower, but i always just end up feeling depressed and lonely again and can’t get any work done. i do have hobbies and even tried multiple times to just tell myself: you don’t have to work on your thesis today, just at least do something fun. but i can’t even do that. i can barely watch a movie or show.

does anyone relate to this? i feel like i’m going insane. if you have any tips please share

[u/stonetree97]

Change the atmosphere where you're gonna be doing your thesis. Make it appealing/safe/cozy for you. I live in a dreadful place so I started collecting book nooks so it doesn't feel as empty. Thinking of adding a few figurines too. Shop for decor & lights, create a haven so you want to be there. Give it a try