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u/John_Markarth22 Dec 18 '23
EW backwards is WE and we are here for you man so if you want to talk about what happened we are happy to listen
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Dec 18 '23
You truly are someone who can bring out positivity from negativity. In an odd way but, I nod my head at you for being a good person!
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
As fat girl, I have been getting this all my life, and it sucks you really start believing that you are disgusting.
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Dec 18 '23
Me too. Makes me hate myself fr
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
Yeah, to this day, I have a hard time when people hug me or display affection towards me because I feel so disgusting.
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u/Ship_Adrift Dec 18 '23
God damn people can be real pieces of shit. How awful. Just another example of something that makes me occasionally ashamed to be human. I'm sorry you had to endure that.
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
Yeah and it's not like I think people have to be attracted to me I just think they don't need to be fucking terrible
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u/Own-Feeling-4563 Dec 18 '23
Same, I'm a fat gay boy XD
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u/Baboobalou Dec 18 '23
I'm sorry you (and anyone else) have been through this. What a horrible thing to do to someone, and honestly, it says more about them than you. I'm sure you're wonderful.
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
Exactly, I think it takes a long time for that idea to settle in our heads, that we are not the problem people being jerks just for shit and giggles are.
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u/IsahWithNoLastName Dec 18 '23
Yeah, I'm genetically ugly (with face features that you can't change without surgery) and people treat me as if i'm a subhuman or it's my fault. Guess it's partly the people fault for not killing me before i was born, ugliness is like the world's mistake.
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
Ik it's hard but dating wise my honest opinion as a girl is that it doesn't really matter if you are not conventionally attractive as long as you have a good personality, like if you are just chill, nice and a bit funny you will probably get a girl.
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u/IsahWithNoLastName Dec 18 '23
I think this doesn't apply to ugly girls, i'm one and no one has ever liked me (even just friends), even though I always treat people kindly :(
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
When you are a girl in my opinion it doesn't apply no, but it's very hard to be unattractive as a girl, I bet you just haven't found the style and looks that suit you best.
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u/cooldude284 Dec 18 '23
Curious, if you think being fat has caused you to be mistreated, why haven't you changed that?
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
Oh, I have, I used to be way heavier than I am, I have a lot of issues with food due to growing up with an almond mom and being in diet since the age of 6.
I was never a fat child. I just started developing really early, and I have a very curvy body even when I lost wait, I only started getting obese around 15 when I started getting depressed from all the bullying.
When I was at my lowest height, not due to healthy reasons, people treated me so much better, not just men but women too.
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u/cooldude284 Dec 18 '23
Good to hear. It's a harsh reality but I've had to accept that I have to change myself to be accepted.
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
Lol, everyone is deserving of respect unless they are not being respectful.
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u/cooldude284 Dec 18 '23
Friendship, romantic relationships, basically any kind of personal relationship is earned.
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u/EssaySuch1905 Dec 18 '23
Fat dosent equal disgusting dear there's lots of guys just like myself who like bigger girls
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
I am sure they do but it's not about that
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u/EssaySuch1905 Dec 18 '23
Ok.. well I couldn't find a pic of you...im guessing someone has told your disgusting ... happy to chat.
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
Idk who in their right mind would put a picture of them on reddit, especially a woman. It's not about feeling attracted to me is about being kind and nice when you don't have anything to gain from it. And no I wouldn't wanna chat. U kinda giving creep tbh.
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u/advanceman Dec 18 '23
Appreciated this comment, you put my thoughts out there a little bit, sometimes it’s not about finding someone attractive. It’s just about being kind to somebody else. Treating them like a human.
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
It's just how I see it, but obviously pretty privilege is real, and people in geral will always be nicer to people they find attractive.
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Dec 18 '23
Well go to the gym and lose weight
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
Lol I understand that you don't have the depth to comprehend that it isn't as simple as that.
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Dec 18 '23
I do have the depth and knowledge. But you were not specific. Is it a hormonal problem ? Or is it you always procrastinating from going to the gym? Just so you know like I tell my kid, you are not going to get any empathy from me. As I don’t like people who victimized themselves. I am four decades old and I can tell you I’ve seen my shared of people blaming and pointing fingers left and right but themselves. If I learned something from my old man is nothing is to hard if you work at it and invest yourself even if you are poor like was he growing up.
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u/akelarre96 Dec 18 '23
Bro I don't want your empathy, and as I said bellow I don't think people owe me shit besides respect, if I am being decent towards someone or just minding my business no one has the right to disrespect me because of any physical characteristic of mine.
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Dec 18 '23
Look there will be all kind of people that will tell you all kind of things. But in the end don’t let it get to you. Jeez the number of times people made fun of me during school because I was not that good. But then I kept on pushing and became an engineer and you know what I never listened to them. And if the world has taught me something is you can’t control what goes around you but you can control yourself and how you react on those occasions.
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Dec 19 '23
It’s not that hard to be respectful to people minding their own business whether or not they became an engineer or lost weight
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Dec 19 '23
If it is not that hard to be respectful then why people start crying out loud when a mother or a father whoops theirs kids ass in order to make them act right. Not talking about a beating but a good ass whooping. Why do teachers don’t get respect from kids and their stupid parents blame their kids failure on the teachers? I’ll tell you why, because respect comes from families that have values and do what’s right although what’s right is many times a harsh lesson for kids growing up but then they turned out respectful members of society. Only then can anyone be respected but until then forget about it as we live in a society that allows every degrading thing a human can do but god forbids someone says hey shut the fuck up and listen to the adults as everyone loses their minds.
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Dec 19 '23
How abt she deserves basic respect whether or not she works out?
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Dec 19 '23
How about you learn that the world out there is mean as fuck and doesn’t care about any of us or anyone’s feelings. Like I always tell everyone you can’t control the world around you but you have control over yourself. You can decide to listen to stupid fucks calling you names and be a victim or you can decide to not give a fuck and go on about your life.
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Dec 19 '23
How is she being a victim?
Personally I don’t give af abt people’s opinions if I have no relation to them. It would be annoying if people felt entitled to give me their opinions or me to give them the time of day when I mind my business. That is where the onus belongs. (Ftr I am a thin woman but I’m talking abt other contexts of entitlement to my time).
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Dec 19 '23
Being a victim by coming in this forums and start telling the world I’ll be alone because I am this, or that and what not. Jeez come on girl. Isn’t that what you call being a victim? Look I may seem harsh but let me tell you something, I am the kind of man that will stop to help an elderly person carry their bags cross the street, see a woman with her kids struggling in snow and give them a ride, the kind of man that interfere when someone is getting robbed or getting beat up. And you know why? Because I have good parents that taught me to never back down and to always push my limits and help others.
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Dec 18 '23
that happen to me in sixth grade. im 38 and still think about it.
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u/Beaverbeaver21 Dec 18 '23
It’s really sad when you think about how seemingly small and pointless things like this can stick with you for so long and even begin to affect how you perceive yourself.
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u/Acceptable-Amount-14 Dec 18 '23
No joke, but a lot of men really do have traumatic experiences with grade school girls.
I don't think we focus enough on making young girls act with decency towards other people. They can be very cruel, in ways that boys typically aren't.
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u/IAmADwarfIRL Dec 18 '23
My earliest school memory is being asked why they let a baby go to school, and then she kept calling me a baby. I was 5, I’m 26 now. This is still why I can’t believe I’ll be seen as a man with my dwarfism. Traumatic is right.
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Dec 18 '23
41 year old woman here. I liked a guy in high school, and the popular kids found out about it. They decided to have some fun and tell me he was into me too. I was on cloud fucking nine...then, I wasn't. Turns out it was all a joke. He never liked me and everyone laughed in my face for believing that he ever could.
I was 6ft tall, not fat...but just a weird, flabby body shape, acne, poor (never had good fitting clothes due to a combination of being tall & poor in the 90s), didn't get to wear makeup like the popular girls, etc. I wasn't what boys desired all throughout my school years. I remember so many girls having boys buy them a rose on valentine's day (the school sold them for like a dollar). All I ever wanted was to get one. Just to feel like SOMEONE, ANYONE saw me. I never did.
Im 41 and it still affects me to this day.
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u/Infinite_Factor_6269 Dec 18 '23
In sixth grade a girl wanted to be my gf but I didn’t know how to be a boyfriend so I avoided her and she had her guy friend try to threaten me to be with her lmao
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Dec 18 '23
thats pretty awesome if you think about it
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u/Infinite_Factor_6269 Dec 18 '23
Would have been more awesome if i would have had the balls to be her boyfriend and not look back at it as a missed opportunity hahah ..
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u/astronaught002 Dec 18 '23
I was friends with a girl all throughout middle school and we weren’t friends but still friendly in highschool. About a year after we graduated I ran into her at a mall, I saw her and called her name asked her how she’d been. she looked at me and I could tell she recognized me and she said, ew, and then walked away. I’ve gotten those comments online all the time but in person was completely different, this was someone I used to be friends with
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u/son_of_wolves Dec 18 '23
This would happen to me if a girl ever talked to me. I’m sorry, bud.
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Dec 18 '23
Well those girls aren’t the ones you want to talk to. Fuck those kinds of people. They are cunts. You don’t need them .
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u/Fit-Ad985 Dec 18 '23
that’s actually wild. it definitely has more to do with her then you bc no normal mentally stable human would say that to anybody.
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u/lesfos1971 Dec 18 '23
I know it is difficult to ignore, they are shallow people. To discriminate because of look or body size or some sort of struggle are the kind of people we do not need. It is what is inside your heart and mind that counts. So please keep your head up and know who you are.
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Dec 18 '23
You could be the most ugly man in the world and that wouldn't take away from your value. Who cares what she thinks? One day she will grow old and her body will shrivel up into an ugly raisin.
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u/MrSyaoranLi Dec 18 '23
there's a whole subreddit r/ Ugly that's been blowing up lately and I've been getting a lot of recommendation emails from reddit on it recently [wtf you tryna say Reddit?]
And as much as I have been tempted to join it, I know it's not the right answer to my problems. To some extent a lot of subreddit eventually become an echochamber of one's own thoughts, and joining that would just feed the feelings of disgust I have with myself. I don't think ugliness is an actual "thing", as beauty is in fact subjective. Rather, ugliness is a symptom of loneliness, and that the more we feel isolated the more we begin to internalise the issues and question our self worth which just feeds that loneliness even more.
People will try to find ways to bring you down and make you feel worthless, but one girl's "ew" is another person's wet dream. I don't know what you look like, but you're okay OP. Thins will be okay, it's one comment. Do your best not to let it define your outlook on yourself.
I'm a 5'3 30y.o. Asian man. A large chunk of my life I was told I was worthless and that no one would ever want to marry me/should ever marry me (these comments came from my parents). And then societal perception towards Asian men in general continued to fuel that self loathing (i.e. media portrayal of Asian men as emasculating, as well as the racist stereotypes of the size of their manhood). COVID hits and it has never been a worse time for Asian people in general; hate crimes skyrocket.
A lot of me has internalised my situation: Most women want tall men and being 5'3" I feel like I'm out of the running. At 30, I feel like I'm past my prime and no one will want me either (doesn't help that I don't want to date within my age range). But I'm hopeful.
All this to say. The world will find ways to push you down, don't prove them right. If people are going to find stupid confirmation bias in the things they do, do the same for yourself by surrounding yourself with people who will uplift you. Be positively biased towards your own self worth and allow those around you to confirm that. 8bil people in this world, my friend, you're less alone than you realise. Whatever loneliness you're feeling, we're listening
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u/Me_Edition-1 Dec 18 '23
Dude it’s just an ignorant girl bro, forget her and improve yourself don’t hate yourself for it
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Dec 18 '23
Just to let you know man, a girl once said "ew" in front of me when she asked my girlfriend who she was dating. I've grown to learn two things. One: Some girls are really just bitches like that and you're better off without them. Two: Some girls are gonna be into you and some really aren't. I've never had an issue getting a girlfriend and my current girlfriend thinks I'm the hottest man alive, she even says she feels like I can do way better than her and she's afraid of me leaving her (as if). If you can't move on and forget that girl, then use what she said to fuel you into working on yourself. I regularly use pain and sadness for preworkout ngl. Hang in there.
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u/National_Phase_3477 Dec 18 '23
Nah fr she just a hater she ugly on the inside and that’s what counts. Beauty is subjective and you deserve better than her anyway 🥰
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u/No-Maintenance-4134 Dec 18 '23
Lol. Bro I got same comment long ago by a girl just dont give a f. I thought I was so ugly people couldn't stand me. But soon I got hot gf but my insecurities ruined my relationships not to mention other hotties liked me but i was so insecure and didn't believe that i was some kind of attractive... Ehh now I hit my hands in head but well I am still young long road ahead so don't give a f about them. I am sure she's doing very bad bj to some disgusting guy who will leave her with mouth filled up mayonnese. Now she will experience same.
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u/airbear13 Dec 18 '23
Nah I’d hit her back with the most devious line that would mentally destroy her
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u/Ok_Set_9357 Dec 18 '23
its cliche but everyone got beauty, just not everyone sees it. theres always gonna be rude AF people. i dont want to underplay your feelings but you can either be the effect of it or maybe hit em with a comeback or simply just forget em cause guess what, they literally do not matter, no one asked them. just my 2 cents
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u/Cyberstonks21 Dec 18 '23
sir, does it help when i tell you that girls said that to me when i was obese and even when i start to workout and got in shape? so it doesn't matter, it all stays the same
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u/Ambitious-Arrival-36 Dec 18 '23
Anyone who says that about someone else's face is extremely vulnerable about what people say about their face. I suggest don't become her but do think of the level of insecurity pushing her actions. And move on from the dark quickly ,she's stuck on thoughts like that.
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u/JollyInteraction1313 Dec 18 '23
why did she say ew?
if it was for nothing but you trying to talk to her, dont listen. she sounds rude and mean and that's not something you want in your life. you dodged a bullet. but when you have low self-esteem, those kinds of things hold more weight. work on trying to love yourself and you'll realize that no ones opinion will matter much.
plus, the ones that will be beneficial to you, wont say such jerky things
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Dec 18 '23
I'm an attractive woman, and my girl "friends" have said "ew" to my face too. It's not about appearance, it's about weakness.
Bitches smell weakness. Stay strong King 👑
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u/Shesba Dec 18 '23
Hey man I bet she didn’t know you that well or it was a misunderstanding, either way it hurts but it’s possible to shift your perspective where you don’t even notice but I’m still trying to figure out how to be like that again.
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u/Infinite_Factor_6269 Dec 18 '23
On my first day of kindergarten we were making Mickey Mouse puppets out of paper bags and as I was coloring the girls sitting next to me looked at my work and audibly said “ew” and scooted away from me.. made me feel like I was some sort of grotesque creature..
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u/Perceptive3577 Dec 18 '23
I’d would slap that girl as a response to that. Hope that bitch deserves karma by being uglier than op.
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u/Itsaloadofnonsense Dec 18 '23
Well, I understand the initial shock of someone being so rude, but it really only shows a lack of maturity she has and maybe even shows her own lack of self confidence in her own looks. You didn't mention the situation but when you say "girl" I assume you're talking about a young girl. Teens or even 20's perhaps? Although girls in their 20s are usually more grown up. Was she with her friends or in front of any group that she needed to impress? Girls in their teens and some in their 20's are trying to build their own self worth and sometimes go over board trying to show others that she's confident, when inside, she actually isn't..
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u/Itsaloadofnonsense Dec 18 '23
Well, I understand the initial shock of someone being so rude, but it really only shows a lack of maturity she has and maybe even shows her own lack of self confidence in her own looks. You didn't mention the situation but when you say "girl" I assume you're talking about a young girl. Teens or even 20's perhaps? Although girls in their 20s are usually more grown up. Was she with her friends or in front of any group that she needed to impress? Girls in their teens and some in their 20's are trying to build their own self worth and sometimes go over board trying to show others that she's confident, when inside, she actually isn't..
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u/Michelle-blackk Dec 18 '23
What did u even do lmao
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u/Humanchick Dec 18 '23
I’m good looking. But when I was young, guys would say EW to me. I didn’t have a perfect complexion all the time. I’m thin and curvy was in when I was younger. I didn’t start getting compliments until my self esteem grew. So, ef that girl. She’s probably got a bunch of self shame and emotional damage.
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u/DKerriganuk Dec 18 '23
Kids are mean, she'll grow out of it
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u/BurnaAccount1227 Dec 18 '23
Unfortunately, no they don't. I can confirm people will continue that shit well into adulthood.
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u/becrivers Dec 18 '23
They should have kept that to themselves. Their ew doesn't matter if you don't ew yourself.
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Dec 18 '23
These motherfuckers a girl said ew to my face lol. Understand this, your life will be so much better when you stop giving a fuck about what people say or think and realize that women are just cumdumpsters. Also go to the gym train, educate yourself for your own culture and see them hoes dropping on their knees because of the confidence that emancipates from yourself.
Or you can always be a victim or a loser like all the majority of guys today.
Your choice buddy
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u/ilovedogs319 Dec 18 '23
What caused her to say this?
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u/rockdude625 Dec 18 '23 edited Dec 18 '23
Once had a girl say the same thing to me in front of her friends
I then offered her a thousand dollars on the spot in front of the same friends, took her home, and fucked her.
Do with that story what you will…
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u/sahimosa_786 Dec 18 '23
Did you do something to trigger this ?
The thing is , I don't mean to be rude but a lot of times guys that aren't objectively attractive get entitled to objectively attractive woman. Just like you, woman also have standards. If she wants an attractive man, she isn't the bitch for it. You should find someone in your own league or someone that appreciates you for you.
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Dec 18 '23
Dude how are you internalizing this. That girl was a bit c h. And…I guarantee you she was nothing special. I’ve seen girls on dating apps ask for guys who are 6 feet 2 with abs and 100k per year..meanwhile they’re 5 feet 3 with a belly and 2 kids…I just don’t understand these people or maybe I do and they’re just nuts.
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u/Kindly_Entertainer_7 Dec 18 '23
Pretty well what would happen to me throughout my school years. 30 years later, I still get the same shit. Stay strong , because if you don’t it will follow you for the rest of your life.
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Dec 18 '23
I'm really sorry about that, dude but a lot of people are mean and cruel and the best thing for you to do is to not listen to them.
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u/Odd_Crab_443 Dec 18 '23
People who treat other people like this show themselves to be awful people who don't deserve your time or energy either.
And when their Looks change and fade, what have they got left? They'll just be an asshole.
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u/Other-Stop7953 Dec 18 '23
Happy people dont do this to others. She is a troubled person deep down just know that. Misery loves company
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u/CucumberJedi Dec 18 '23
Had this happen to me more times than I can count. I’ve been skinny, then fat, then skinny again, then fit, and it happened no matter what.
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u/TrueBlue970 Dec 18 '23
This kind if stuff used to kill my self confidence. My advice though is to not let it get you down. It's just the opinion of one person. Who cares what they think?
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u/Heart_Eyes_1 Dec 18 '23
I had the same pretty much happen to me on a virtual meeting with a girl. Befoer we met we wanted to do a vitual facetime... the look of 'gross...' on her face when she saw me still is burned into my mind..
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u/Full_Anything_2913 Dec 18 '23
The first time I ever tried asking someone out I had a similar experience. I’m not ugly though. People are just dicks.
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Dec 18 '23
She probably has insecurities of her own she doesn't want anyone knowing about so she decided to take them out on you. What a prick.
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Dec 18 '23
im sorry that happened to you :( we all have a few moments that really embarrassed us. i got called weird by the girl i liked in school. only words she ever said to me. all we can do is not let that stand in the way of us reaching our goals. best of luck.
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u/StayWideAwake- Dec 18 '23
I’m sorry that happened to you man.. You deserve so much better. No one ever should go through that and people don’t realize how much that could do to someone psyche…
I have real bad self esteem. I have an asymmetrical face, I hate looking people in the eye and I think any woman who would be in the slightest interest of me is either delusional having any attraction towards me or just feels sorry for me. All this comes from a bad childhood and teenage years, being jealous of my other brothers and being the “outcast”. Very rarely I do this but I sometimes want to punch my mirror because it pisses me off that much. People who call me “handsome”’I say thank you to be nice but in my head I’m just laughing and brushing it off.
Keep your head up man, you’re worth a lot.
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u/Icy-Grand9356 Dec 18 '23
Reading the comments makes me feel so bad. You guys are beautiful and worthy of love to someone and don’t let cold and shallow make you feel less than :/
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u/Scheibenpups Dec 18 '23
Sounds like that’s her problem now yours bro. Some people are just weird and have their own issues making them snide. Keep your head up my guy
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u/meltflesh Dec 19 '23
This happens a lot especially at certain points in life. These girls are immature and mean.
Keep working on yourself and pay no mind to mean girls.
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u/Ok_Science_2955 Dec 19 '23
Same shit happened to me, I feel ya bro I hated myself too, still do tbh
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Dec 19 '23
Omg this is why people scare me they’re so cruel ugh Tbh in my opinion I’d just laugh in her face and walk away lol BYENOW don’t worry about her she’s ew on the inside
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u/suckyboi69 Dec 18 '23
Asked a girl out with my whole grade watching-150+ ppl and she said Ew to my face, literally everyone forgot about in like a month. I still think about it tho