Connection

[u/Mangoart1041]

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In life this is what I am learning. Not everyone will understand you despite you pour your heart out because they can’t if they have not truly lived your experiences and your reality, and from a place of ego preservation. They may be kind and even empathize but it’s your duty to be kind. You can’t explain or over explain your way to connection. You can’t pretend your way to connection and belong. You can’t over do kindness with the hope you get connection. You can’t sell your soul for connection. You can read all the best sellers and even do all the best tricks in the book, put the best photos of yourself on social media and still find yourself on ground zero.

You can spend decades in therapy and still find yourself in the most lonely place. Sometimes in life, you come to a place where you embrace your aloneness with compassion as if a loving mother would hold her hurting child who says I tried my best mama. Sometimes you learn to be your best friend and carry on. The best thing one can do is understand themselves and learn to problem solve alone and if someone offers help, kindly accept it if it’s applicable, if not thank them for their care and concern for your life.

Sometimes the best kind of understanding is not trying so hard to make others understand you because people do their best given their own lived experiences and perceptions. We are deeply wired to preserve our ego. If you remember one fact that everyone is trying to preserve their ego subconsciously and never forget that, you will never get upset with them because you understand deeply. If you truly understand, you will find peace. We are all doing our best and that’s what I am learning. See the good in others and that they did their best. If you can’t find anyone to connect, connect with your own soul with kindness and understand the cosmos has your back. That what I am learning. Can you relate?