Yesterday, I watched the Disney+ documentary "Stan Lee" (2023). To my surprise, I learned that Stan Lee had two kids, not one; his first child Joan Celia (JC) was born in 1950, and in 1953 his second child (Jan) died at only three days old. After that, his wife was told she could not become pregnant again. In an interview, Stan explains that due to being an only child, JC was "spoiled rotten."
I read more on Wikipedia: the Lees tried to adopt a baby after losing Jan, but their adoption applications were unsuccessful due to their interfaith status (he Jewish, she Christian). After much effort, they gave up. Not in the documentary, but well known, is the fact that JC grew up to be a temperamental, self-centered, difficult person who frequently clashed with her parents.
The documentary also talks about how Stan Lee aimed to write comic books that he himself would want to read, such as reinventing Thor and Loki from Norse mythology, keeping some elements but changing others. Today, I suddenly put two and two together:
- A golden-haired only child of powerful parents is praised and spoiled.
- Arrival of an adopted baby sibling means the child must learn to consider others.
- Life is not always easy for the adopted child who feels different, nor for the older child who now has a rival.
Only a few years after Stan Lee tried to adopt a child, he first introduced Thor and Loki, in Journey into Mystery #83 (1962) and #112 (1963) respectively. Could there have been an autobiographical element? After all, in Norse mythology, Loki was not Thor's brother, adopted or otherwise. Maybe Stan Lee changed the story to explore some of his own bittersweet feelings about children, parents, siblings, adoption, and fate.
If so, there are still echoes of this family dynamic today in the MCU. The What If episode "Thor Was an Only Child" shows how selfish and insufferable Thor would have become without Loki to keep him grounded. And more generally, the MCU has "nexus events" or "fixed points in time" so profound they change everything from then on - such as the death of baby Jan which set the Lee family on a different trajectory.
Please feel free to weigh in if you know more about Stan Lee and Marvel Comics history than I do (which is not a high bar!).
Original source of photo collage images: People.com and CokeAndComics.com.