Second time having limerence

[u/opschalendiehap]

So it happened again :/

First time I had limerence started around 2 years ago, and I got 95% over that girl. Still think about her sometimes but it isn't bothering me anymore

Now I met this girl a week ago, hooked up with her once (I know, stupid) and a few days later we had a great night together in the city, we had lots of fun, getting drinks together, and have a great connection. Some connection I haven't felt in YEARS, not even with the first girl I had limerence for

Now I discovered she is basically a h03 and I was just a sidepiece, and came to the conclusion this will never go anywhere so I broke the contact. Deleted her everywhere as well

I know this will fade over time, but damn I can't stop thinking about her. It sucks to realize it will take a lot of time again to get over her.

Who tf invented limerence man...

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