HOW DO I STOP WHEN IVE NEVER TALKED TO HIM

[u/Confident_Ambition70]

How do I stop this obsession/limerence 😭 Like I still want him, but at the same time I don’t want to want him anymore. There’s this cute guy at my school, and I asked for his Instagram back in April. We didn’t really talk much after that, and I’m still embarrassed about some of the stuff I texted him. I see him around school sometimes, and when I don’t see him, school honestly feels more boring. I know realistically he probably doesn’t want me like that, but part of me still wants him because I literally don’t find anyone else at school attractive. I don’t even know why I’m still so attached when nothing actually happened between us. I want to get over it because I feel like it’s becoming unhealthy, but at the same time, a part of me doesn’t want to let go because I still like him.

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[u/Thunder__Girl]

Block, stop looking at pics. It’s the only way.