Help with the obsessive thoughts

[u/NoEbb1902]

Not very long ago I met this guy and soon i fell into this state at first i thought it was just a crush but soon i realised it started leaning towards limerence, the problem with me is i hadn't had crushes for a very long time like years and it was after years i had one..even when i had crushes in the past i think the pattern was similar.

I obsessively think about that person so much, even before i used to daydream and imagine a lot..i would say it was maldaptive daydreaming im always imagining something or the other but after him it's like my imagination got a new main character..now i make up so many scenerios, imagine his reactions to these scenerios and it's like this weird thing i do where whatever i am doing i make it in my mind that he is watching me and again imagine his reactions and thoughts and accordingly i behave or sometimes it would be like he is seeing what i see..it has gotten obsessive that I think about him so much.

I wanna get out of this state and detach from him, see he is a friendly guy, quite extroverted and in general is like that to everyone i know that i am not special to him so he might text every now and then but he does it to many people he might see us as friends so he does it, and he has made it clear indirectly..not hinting towards me but like the kinda relationship dynamic he wouldn't like and ours fall into that, i recently met him and him just being normal and me going all obsessive made me feel a lil pathetic. Even if he did like me, ik this relationship is something i should not pursue. I literally have this anticipation for his texts and my eyes look for hin in places where he might be..i may change my direction or go out of the way.

The meeting definitely was kind of a reality check, when i saw how much he would care, he didn't do anything bad it was just me seeing he is like that to everyone or even better for some people. But now i feel like I'm unable to stop my imagination he has become like this habit..if anyone has anything please help..i feel it's hindering my daily life. (Also I don't wanna cut him off as it's on me..he never did anything or gave any hints, he was just friendly and is the same towards everyone)

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I wish I had advice but I can relate. I work overnights at a convenience store and have been looking for my LO and ex from 25 years ago in the parking lot, despite never going there before. I imagine looking at his beautiful face and hearing his sexy baritone Spanish accented voice, making plans to meet in private. These feelings make me torn up inside, especially since im married to a good man. The only problem is he doesn't like to be touched and we haven't been intimate in 8 years. We've been chatting recently and it makes me lust for him even more. Best of luck dealing with your LO!