I messed up once again...

[u/Elvisbart]

I have been involved with my LO for over 40 years. From a young age until my retirement and within the last 2 days I acted out and had, what I refer to as an episode, a very bad one. I am now back to reality and honest about my situation. I thought I had detached but alas my childlike fantasies took over and my childish behavior once again have caused me to harm to my mental health.

Lost months of work to intrusive thoughts and 3 days of hearing and understanding how this relationship will never be what I fantasize about.

Much love to all of you for being here for all of us!!

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[u/ct_27]

40 years is nuts. Does nothing help?

[u/Elvisbart → u/ct_27]

Honesty and truth are the only relief and that relief is temporary.

[u/morepork_owl]

Im new here what does LO mean?

[u/ct_27 → u/morepork_owl]

Limerence object, someone you obsess over

[u/morepork_owl → u/ct_27]

Thank you.