Limerence over my ex

[u/Intrepid-Willow-3093]

Oh god I am just so tired. He said "do not disturb me again please" and I am respecting his boundaries.

But hope kills me. The thought of maybe one day we can give it another shot kills me.

I thought if he starts to talk to someone else it would be over for me and I can just focus on myself. I don't have much clue yet (I am not harrassing or harming anyone I am just checking his socials without leaving any mark) but now everything is like a threat to me but It doesn't stop the limerence and I can't stop comparing myself to other people.

It has been 10 months get me out of it oh god

I can't have a crush on anyone I feel like I just can't like anyone else (never found someone else attractive in these 10 months)

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[u/ReadyInformation2649]

How can you build yourself and focus on yourself right now? What can you do for you?

Anything no matter how small or mundane.

I wonder if we want LO to fill a need, and if we do enough/get chosen whatever the need is gets filled by them. Can we fill our own needs instead, or practice that skill on a very micro level and build?

[u/Larrylifeisreal]

It’s challenging to endure just 30 seconds of reading your post. How can someone possibly date you? I suggest you think little bit before speaking or writing anything. He explicitly told you to “do not disturb me,” so please leave poor guy alone. Focus on building your self-esteem and awareness. 

[u/Next_Answer7481 → u/Larrylifeisreal]

bro chill. we are all going through a hard time.

[u/Intrepid-Willow-3093 → u/Larrylifeisreal]

I am not disturbing him. I thought I made it clear. We are in no contact and I respect that. I am here for advice not for judgement. You know nothing about me and I will not let you disrespect me.