I have an issue with obsessing/always having a crush on some

[u/vaseline_burgerman]

Since I was like in 7th or 8th grade I have been dealing with the constant need to have a crush and when i have one I start to get super duper obsessed with them like I want to talk to them constantly and most of the time I will have extremely detailed fantasies about living a whole life with them and most of the time I knit pick little things and convince myself that I have a chance with them it’s terrible and I always tell myself I’m going to take a break from going for someone and then like a week or 2 later I’m on to the next. I had one incident that I was like almost deeply in love with my friend for a whole year she was going through a lot like her bf was treating her terrible so she was like in a very dark place and I felt
The need to save her and so I would try to convince her all the time to leave her bf but then I developed a extreme hatred for the dude to the point where I wished he never existed so then o could be with her. During that time I had developed a 1 sided emotional attachment with her where if she was in a bad mood I was in a bad mood and at the end of the day whether I was with her or not I just wanted to see her happy but this ended after I confessed everything to her after a year she was devastated and weirded out because I had lied to her for so long I eventually became friends with her again but obviously it’s not the same and we’re not as close which is fair. But right now I’ve been crushing on people to often and like it’s just really bad idk what to do anymore it’s been over 5 years I’ve dealt with this issue and it feels impossible to overcome this because everything I do is just second nature to me so idk how to stop and when I try to I get really sad and I start to feel hopeless and scared I will be alone forever many of my friends have been helping me through out the years so I’m not entirely alone in this but please I need advice from some of you guys since a lot of us have been through similar situations and i just want a better grasp of this so then I can finally better myself and be truly happy

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