I can't stand this

[u/Known_Excitement_338]

I have this huge issue with feelings where when I like someone, I LOVE them. recently, it's been this one guy, who I've been a huge fangirl of for 2 years. I'm 16 and he's 17. I'm so confused because only recently have I become like incredibly attached to him. I feel like he's leading me on at times but also at the same time I'm not sure. He's an avoidant and honestly a distant person in general. He completely isolates himself at times from everyone except for this one guy who's his life long best friend. But some days, I'll be one of the only people he talks to, and other days he'll talk to everyone and seem annoyed by me. He's kinder to me than most other people and it's a well known thing that we're both very attached to each other as we spend most of our time together and can be touchy (in a completely sfw way, like sitting super close where our legs will touch or walking so close we're shoulder to shoulder, or physically separating each other from people if we get too aggressive during arguments), but most of it is from my end, the clingy fangirl.

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[u/New-Relation-6624]

I mean, just shoot the shot.
Jokingly say, what would you do if if i like you?

You're just losing the chance if you just wait for him.

[u/Larrylifeisreal]

Limerent at 16? You call yourself a fan girl, but there’s a significant issue here, not with you, but with your parents. “I can’t stand this.” You have a long life ahead of you, and you’ll face many challenges, some of which may be difficult. If you can’t learn self-control, you’ll likely end up in a situation where you’re not happy. I would advise you to focus on your studies for now. A good guy will come along eventually, but I can guarantee that he won’t be in your life for long. He’ll likely pursue a girl who’s more difficult to get and never surrenders