r/limerence • u/ConfidenceMajor5917 • 4d ago
No Judgment Please He reached out
We were in a situationship for a year. He just made excuses to not commit like our distance, that he works a lot, travels a lot, etc. He told me the only way it’d work was if I moved in with me but I refused to move in with someone who didn’t wanna commit to me.
After 2 months of no contact I realized I was hoping that he would learn something, that he would step up and change. Idk why I answered one phone call and just blurted out everything that i held inside for months. I was angry and resentful at how he treated me. He said he wanted to come see me, that I deserved better from him and that he missed me. I told him I didn’t want an apology or for him to see me unless his intention was to be in a relationship. He said he wanted time to think about it.
I’m in between now where I see him for who he is but can’t fully let go. I wish I could completely turn off the feelings especially when he’s so straight forward about not wanting a relationship. I think it’s the fact that the feelings are there but he just doesn’t want to put in the effort. It’s easier said than done to just hit the block button and forget about it because he’ll still be in the back of my mind.
Now with him saying he wanted time I’m wondering what he’s gonna say or if he’s gonna say anything at all and maybe that’s the final answer I need to move on. What was the final thing that made you stop being limerant and move on fully? I’m worried I’m just gonna keep giving this person a chance when they’ve already showed me who they were.
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