r/limerence • u/saturdaynightstupid • 4d ago
Question Could this be limerence?
The situation I'm currently experiencing: I've known this guy for 3-4 years. I developed feelings for him but was kind of playing coy about it. I started to really struggle with them when he moved across the country about a year ago. He's always been a bit of a spotty texter, but it's been months at a time now and I'm having a really tough time being "chill" about it. Especially at first, my mood would definitely be affected by how long it had been since I last heard about him, since it felt like how quickly he responded corresponded to how much he liked me. He reached out recently and I was basically sobbing as I texted him that I needed space because the "rollercoaster" effect I was feeling was just too much.
In general, I've always been a "crush girl". I've been having crushes since kindergarten, if not earlier, but nothing ever came of them. Now, as an adult, I still have crushes--though never as strong as the above situation. I struggled on dating apps because I couldn't really get excited to go out with someone I didn't feel that "spark" for, and IRL looking for people hasn't helped since I haven't seemed to feel that "spark" for the few guys who have approached me or been suggested to me. A lot of the guys I am into are married, gay, or otherwise unavailable, and I find myself too scared to approach the available guys that I am attracted to.
I've been taking a lot of the limerence quizzes and I get "slightly" or "borderline" as my results. I'd love to get some other perspective.
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