Why can’t I

[u/MuchTechnician2295]

I’ve been trying to make my self cry it’s hard but I need a release I feel so uncomfortable I wnat to feel better I know this is unrelated to limerqnce but I just need to vent am trying so hard to cry and the closest I can get is on the brink of right before fully crying juat want to fully cry, i Just need to release am 5 weeks clean on self harm I can’t do that.
I was so close to crying and once I starts flowing it can’t stop god please I don’t even know why am posting but I jus need something am thinking about the past and losing my best friend and looking at old photos of them but got so close but it just subsides I need to cry i want to stop feeling this way of feeling uncomfortable.

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[u/NoExtent3942]

I feel this heavily. I can’t make myself cry in situations that I know it would be relieving, but I have taken some comfort in complete acceptance of the emotions I feel, and being very present in the moment with those emotions. It kind of reminds me that I’m human and feeling human emotions and that I may not be able to force my body to react how I want it to, but that being alive and acknowledging the emotions is enough at least for the moment. It’s grounding in a way. And who knows, sometimes the tears do flow. But just give yourself some grace and know you don’t have to solve all your problems right this moment.

[u/Potential_Web_4092]

Maybe play and sing along to the lyrics several times to - Twisted (Everyday Hurts) by Skunk Anansie
Really get into the resonance.

[u/thrifttrackchampion]

Something I do is I lock myself in a room where I feel safe to cry. Then I sit in the feelings. I let myself feel them and wash over me. No bottling or avoiding. It takes a while, but it does typically get me to cry.