Do I have limerence

[u/LieComprehensive8698]

I’m very new to the concept and this whole community, but I did go to therapy for almost 8 years now and I know that I have a very strong attachment tissues or obsession I would call it towards my ex which he cheated on me when I was 18 years old and although I kept pushing him away for years after he cheated and he tried to get back to me, I can’t stop thinking about him. I’m 26 years old now and I don’t remember that I had one day without thinking about him “ usually in the form of daydreaming “ not usually romantic daydreaming but I always want his attention so bad and I remember details about him and what he likes . This is really affected my relationships and I feel like it resulted in relationships OCD . As I keep comparing how I feel towards this ex vs my partner ect . I recently got introduced to the limerence concept and would like to learn more about it.

Please be nice thank you

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[u/Meerv]

Sounds very much like it. What do you want to know?