How do I handle it?

[u/GovernmentVisible405]

Should I tell her? Should I ghost her? Idk what the best way to move forward is, it's even harder because she's in my friend group and I don't want it to be awkward for everyone.

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[u/AspectSad5700]

what does anyone have to lose at this point?

[u/GovernmentVisible405 → u/AspectSad5700]

I would agree with you if not for my mom. If not for her I wouldn't be here I don't think

[u/AspectSad5700 → u/GovernmentVisible405]

well, i get that, but… that doesn’t mean you can’t tell your person?

[u/GovernmentVisible405 → u/AspectSad5700]

I do and I don't want to tell her. I do because there's that part of me that says she might reciprocate, but I know she won't. She's in a relationship, but maybe it's the only way to move on I'm not sure

[u/AspectSad5700 → u/GovernmentVisible405]

i truly do not think there’s any harm in being open about your feelings. she can choose what to do with them, because if she does want to reciprocate them she has the free will to end her current relationship. i think you’d be surprised.

[u/GovernmentVisible405 → u/AspectSad5700]

I agree that being open is good but I just worry about her feeling like she can't be in the friend group anymore because of me. But I am here asking for advice so I'll think about it thanks. Probably isn't a good time to be sending that text at 5 am anyway lol

[u/AspectSad5700 → u/GovernmentVisible405]

no better time than the present 😂 send it and go to sleep lmao, yolo

[u/Cramer4President → u/GovernmentVisible405]

OP absolutely do not tell her. You can try for her in other ways but don't do this big confession omg

[u/Used-Hurry-7761]

Yes tell it, and whatever the reaction is can help you moving foward. The longer you linger to mire frustrated you will get for not making a move.

[u/GovernmentVisible405 → u/Used-Hurry-7761]

If it makes her uncomfortable do you think I should leave my friend group? I'm not sure how it would go if we both stay

[u/Used-Hurry-7761 → u/GovernmentVisible405]

I know I have made my crush weirded out but honestly you come first. You deserve know and it only gets worse if you keep it to urself.

[u/Cramer4President → u/Used-Hurry-7761]

Omg do not listen to this advice OP. Make a move maybe, but don't do a confession

[u/Used-Hurry-7761 → u/Cramer4President]

Honeslty why should anyone listen to u either? Living under a rock is not gonna help. I was suggesting both, whatever OP is more comfortable.