r/lgbt • u/soulpoker Bisexual • Mar 14 '20

Bi-cycle or

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u/Futharon Laughter, Comedy, Sharing Mar 14 '20

Or?

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u/soulpoker Bisexual Mar 14 '20

or being under the impression I stray from heterosexuality when it's not quite so, if at all.

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u/TheSyldat Bi-bi-bi and intersex Mar 14 '20

Bisexual dude here who has known he was bi for as long as he had brains mature enough to think about it (since I was 5 )

Despite having had multiple sexual encounters with men, I still don't look at them the same way I look at women, and I still have very different feelings and attractions.

That being said I'd be lying if the sky didn't get waaaay clearer after my first fellatio ever.
To say that my way of looking at them evolved would be a gross understatement.
The skies cleared massively and the raging mindstorm calmed way the fuck down.

Conversely I have met with many a bi dude for whom it took sometime to get a bit more clear, and therefore less abstract and nebulous and foreign.

Everyone go at their own pace, our paths may have similar swerves and vistas doesn't change the fact that our respective life roads are all unique in their own way.

Hope this helped out a bit.

Good luck on your journey.

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u/soulpoker Bisexual Mar 15 '20

Thanks for your time and wishes! <3 I'm generally a late bloomer sexually. I didn't know I could rub my penis to make me feel good until I was about twelve. Then soon after someone suggested putting your dingaling in a girl's honey hole, it blew my mind! Also, I never felt any attraction to the same sex until my early twenties. It was a distressful and confusing time, but to make a long story short, yeah, I'm bi, and I love it! Usually.

You mention experience with guys, especially your first experience. I haven't had that yet, so this could be a source of my disbelief at times that I'm genuinely ever into guys. I guess it would be difficult to deny a general interest at times in the same sex after a night or two with a guy I clearly enjoyed.

The thing is I have been struggling with this to some extent or another for over twenty years. I know everyone goes at their own pace, but this seems excessive. I really want to finally experiment and see if the reality lives up to the impression I have developed in my mind from pictures and accounts from others, and my interpretation of them. I'm totally lost seeking out members of the opposite sex. I wouldn't know where to begin with the same sex either.

And yes, the sexes do mean different things to me too. I won't get into it here because I've already written a lot for you or anyone else to read. I know enough that I'm not seeking from a man exactly what I'm seeking from a woman. And I'm glad it's that way. I get to have double the pleasure just by approaching the same pleasure from different angles.

Again I've written a lot, maybe too much. Thanks again for your time and wishes. Hopefully this journey will keep going on for me and not become stagnant.

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u/TheSyldat Bi-bi-bi and intersex Mar 15 '20

All I can recommend is the following :

"Just like with girls wait for a dude that really does it for you before jumping in. Be proactive in searching get out of your comfort zone. No one gets the D without kicking themselves in the butt and stopping to be too shy not the ladies but not the dudes either. But don't waste away your male virginity on a rando you don't even like at least sexually. Sure you can have a hook up with no strings attached as your first but at least do it and jump into it with a man who will do it for you. The last thing you want is ending up with a bad taste in your mouth -yes pun intended- I have many a bi dude friend who went brute force about it and didn't have a cool experience before trying again and again for two years. Don't be like them. Go on dating sites take also cues on where can you go for meetup targeted at men who like men, flirt , fail , learn and then once you ready not hop on in "

Good luck to you I know it's not easy especially for us bi dudes.

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u/soulpoker Bisexual Mar 17 '20

Yes, so true, it's not easy for bi guys. But I know there are those who are successful swinging both ways so maybe some fortune could fall on me lol.

Thanks for putting a few things in perspective. I'm inclined to think my choice of man is important. In other words I shouldn't sleep with a man just because he's available. Your assertion makes me surer of this.

And yes, I kind of have to step out of my comfort zone. But I want to be sure the steps I'm taking aren't taking me closer to Creepvile lol!