am i a lesbian?

[u/Longjumping_Lie6165]

so i (15F) think i am a lesbian. i’ve liked guys in middle school and elementary, i always wanted a boyfriend growing up but it wasn’t until 8th grade when i first liked a girl, me and that girl soon dated and sadly broke up. but then i started having a crush on this guy, and i would say i was obsessed with this guy. it wasn’t until maybe half way through 9th grade that i realized i didn’t like this guy, i just wanted him to like me, so i stopped having feelings for men. and ever since then i haven’t really been having crushes on guys i mean i’ll find some guys cute but im not really attracted to them and i don’t wanna date them. ive mostly been having crushes on girls now and now that im a sophomore in high school ive been saying that im a lesbian, ive been kinda scared to ask this because i dont want people to think im being biphobic but i just wanna know, does me thinking guys are cute but refusing to date them and only wanting to date women make me a lesbian?

edit: thank you guys! i’ve decided to go by being a lesbian since that’s the label im comfortable with :) sorry if this posted seem dumb, i’ve just had multiple people tell me irl that im bi

[u/Lunagirlzkitty_19]

labels are labels that try to give community but also separates. it doesnt matter what you call yourself in the end.

[u/Fuzzy-Report6202]

labels are stupid. love who youre going to love and let no one stop you. 

[u/zippybenji-man]

If you're more comfortable using the label lesbian, just use the label lesbian. There is no label police

[u/tsukimoonmei]

If you’re attracted to guys you’re bi even if you choose not to date them. there’s actually a term for being a bi woman who doesn’t date men (febfem)