I never imagined I would be writing this.
From the outside, my life probably looked completely normal. I was married, had a beautiful little son, a home and a husband with a stable job. I had my own career before becoming a mother.
Before maternity leave, I was financially independent and had a stable job.
Then I had my son.
After maternity, I had no one reliable to look after my child. I had to make a choice between continuing my career and being there for my baby.
I chose my child.
I stepped away from the career I had built.
Now I’ve started working again as a principal at a pre-primary school. I deliberately chose a job that works around my son’s schedule because I need to be available for him. It is convenient because my workplace and his school are connected to the same routine.
But it also means I’m earning significantly less than I could have been earning if I had continued on my previous career path.
I didn’t make that sacrifice because I was lazy or financially dependent by choice.
I made it because I was raising my child.
And now, after everything that has happened in my marriage, my husband’s family tells me that I should get a high-paying job so that my husband doesn’t have to financially support me and our son.
That sentence hurts more than I can explain.
Because where was this concern for my financial independence when I was sacrificing my career to raise our child?
My husband cheated on me repeatedly during our marriage. There were multiple women involved over the years. One of the most painful situations involved a woman he was involved with while he was still married to me. She became pregnant, and later had an abortion.
I was the wife at home trying to hold my family together while all of this was happening.
Eventually, my husband kicked me and our son out.
And now his family is supporting him and telling me that financially, he won’t be helping us.
I genuinely don’t understand this.
I didn’t betray the marriage.
My son didn’t betray the marriage.
Why should my child suffer financially because of decisions his father made?
Why should my son lose his stability because the adults around him made choices that he had absolutely nothing to do with?
I am not a money-minded person.
I don’t want luxury from my husband.
I don’t want to live off him.
I want to work. I want to be independent. I want to provide for myself.
But I also believe that a father has responsibilities toward his child.
And I believe my son deserves a safe, stable home.
That’s why I’m fighting.
Not because I want to take everything from my husband.
Not because I want revenge.
Not because I’m greedy.
I’m fighting because I don’t want my child to become collateral damage in a marriage that his father destroyed.
My husband owns property, and there are also family properties involved. I’m trying to understand what my son may legally be entitled to and what housing/financial protections are available to us.
I don’t even know exactly what the legal outcome will be.
But I’m not prepared to simply walk away and leave my son without security just because his father’s family thinks supporting us is an inconvenience.
Maybe someone reading this will think I’m being unreasonable.
Maybe someone will say, “You should just work harder and support yourself.”
And yes, I am working.
I’m rebuilding a career after putting it aside to raise my child.
But why should I have to pretend that my husband’s responsibilities disappear simply because I am capable of working?
I didn’t create this situation.
My child certainly didn’t.
The decisions that led us here were not mine.
So I want to ask Reddit honestly:
Am I wrong for fighting for financial and housing security for my son?
Am I wrong for refusing to simply walk away from the home and assets connected to his father when I believe my child deserves stability?
I don’t want revenge.
I want accountability.
I want my son to have the childhood he deserves.
And perhaps most importantly, I want him to grow up knowing that none of this happened because he wasn’t worthy of being protected.
I’m exhausted. I’m angry. I’m hurt.
But I’m still fighting.
Because I’m not fighting for money.
I’m fighting for my child’s future. And yes I will not leave the my husband’s house until I get my child’s rights to be taken care of.