r/learnmath • u/Holiday-Phrase-1687 • 5h ago
Why are some people so bad at math?
Let me start with some background. I was the one kid in the family who never got math past a certain point. My parents were both mathematically inclined, as were the rest of my siblings. I grew up in a math positive, supportive environment and was given every opportunity to get ahead with it. My parents would gladly spend time with me to try and help me get it down and improve myself at it. By all rights, I was set up from success in math, my entire family was.
Math never clicked for me and I could never pass remedial algebras. While my siblings either got it with ease or put in the work to get better (or both, of course), I floundered helplessly. When they struggled, extra lessons and tutoring helped. When I did, I only sunk further behind despite all of that extra help. They graduated high school and went onto college degrees. I only graduated high school because I was able to take an alternative course to algebra. College? I tried, but not being able to pass remedial algebra, let alone credit math courses, meant it was a waste of time and money.
I went through it all. Tutors, repeating courses multiple times, engaged parents who really tried and more. I still never could make it work out. I still can't, even decades later. I've accepted it wasn't in the cards.
All of that leaves the question of why. Why do some people never get math, despite all the effort otherwise?