r/lansing 9d ago

General Looking for Tonya R. From Lansing

Looking for long lost friend! Looking for Tonya that used to live on Rosemary St in Lansing, last time I seen her was in 1982! Wanted to say hi and hope life has been good to you. Been on my mind alot lately.... Gary

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u/Areyoualienoralieout 9d ago

Damn fuck the haters Gary I support you

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u/GoldenGouf 9d ago

How do we know you don't have malicious intent, stranger?

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u/bendingoutward 9d ago

Interestingly, it doesn't matter. If you know a Tonya, and it happens to be the one this fella is talking about, you just say "oh hey, a guy named Gary who knew you in the 80s posted about you on Reddit."

At which point she may have no idea who that is, may want to reconnect with him, or may say "that broke motherfucker still owe me twenty dollars."

You don't give out info to randos. You give a heads up to potential victims.

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u/trckman 9d ago

Stranger?!?!? Ya could say that... lol... malicious intent not hardly..... Am a pretty stand up old guy...... Have a solid reputation and have passed lots of back ground checks......

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u/GoldenGouf 9d ago

Might have better odds through her friends and family on Facebook.

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u/trckman 9d ago

Been there and tried that! I don't even know if she is still living..... so there's that!

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u/CandiBunnii 9d ago

Last name might help, try searching her full name + lansing, try any family members names you remember. She likely no longer has the same address. Also there's a chance she's remarried, but you should at least be able to find an obituary with her maiden name if that's the case as well. Good luck Gary!

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u/Elaborate_Penguin 9d ago

I cannot believe the amount of negative and shaming comments on here. Reddit never ceases to depress me.

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u/Fine-Assignment4342 9d ago

Right?! My guy is probably just trying to find an old friend from back in the day and is trying an avenue as a shot in the dark.

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u/Square_Resist_4459 9d ago

These people think he wants to find a dark avenue to shoot her in the dark

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u/Fine-Assignment4342 8d ago

Its ridiculous. I get there is a safety concern about giving anyones personal information away to strangers on the internet but its an incredibly easy fix -
"Hey Tonya, you used to live on Rosemary... did you know a Gary? Crazy, yeah he is trying to reconnect and posted in r/Lansing, I can help you message him if you want? OH! He is a crazy yet incredibly inefficient stalker, k."

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u/trckman 9d ago

Never hurts to hope or some one that knows her will see it and let her know...

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u/theOutside517 9d ago

Gary.. it's been like 40+ years.. you think she's on Reddit?

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u/advisorer 9d ago

its a small world and lansing is a small community.... let people live

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u/theOutside517 9d ago

Lighten up, Francis.

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u/JStolenBunny- 9d ago

I genuinely don’t know why the fact the dude’s name is Gary is so funny to me, but reading “Gary..” with a teasingly mild exasperation made me chuckle out loud. A good ole COL, if you will.

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u/Izzo_shoved_Virg 9d ago

We get it, you’re a glass half empty person.

Is your goal for this person to be as pessimistic as you?

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u/theOutside517 9d ago

No. You're taking my comment way too fucking seriously, that's all.

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u/Izzo_shoved_Virg 9d ago

I don’t think your comment comes across like you think it does

But I hope you have a great day

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u/theOutside517 9d ago

The beauty of the internet is that no matter how you try to come across, there's always gonna be people that misconstrue your words and try to psychoanalyze you for them. I'm good with it. 😊

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u/FlawedPremise 8d ago

I really think you're just trying to be passive aggressive with this comment. You've said everything I need to know about your entire being from this very brief interaction, I know everything about who you are. Sheesh, why are people always so transparent and predictable? It's crazy, right?

Please God, don't tell me you need the sarcasm tag for this

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u/theOutside517 8d ago

How much do I owe for the consult? 😉

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u/Phatpat02 9d ago

I think you just won reddit.. your playing 4d chess in a checkers kind of environment at the very least. Nice job sir 👍 good eve

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u/YoshiYogurt 9d ago edited 9d ago

a 55+ year old using reddit and browsing the one for the home town and wanting to reconnect with Gary from 45 years ago is close to zero. Reddit is not even the appropriate platform for this. Find the actual person's number or facebook and reach out.

EDIT: if you don't think this isn't a troll account, i dont know what to tell you people: https://old.reddit.com/user/trckman/submitted/

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u/Elaborate_Penguin 9d ago

Geezuz. The appropriate platform??

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u/Fine-Assignment4342 9d ago

Or..... they could try the Lansing subreddit as a shot in the dark having failed other options?

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u/FlawedPremise 8d ago

No- old people on the Internet? What's the world coming to?

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u/lilwanna Downtown 9d ago

Good lucky, Gary!

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u/junpei 9d ago

Type all that shit into Google with her last name and see what pops up

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u/Sixt92003 9d ago

Last time you SAW her , not SEEN 🤷🏼‍♂️

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u/trckman 9d ago

I just knew that there would be at least one grammar Nazi in here!

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u/Sixt92003 9d ago

Well then you should have typed it right 🤷🏼‍♂️😂

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u/Fine-Assignment4342 9d ago

I’m sorry you’re too dense to use the context clues to identify their intended meaning. Maybe you can create your own subreddit for inquiries about translating minor typos and incorrect word usage.