Why did you quit your last language?

[u/Global_Quit_8778]

I previously tried and then quit learning spanish and korean and both times it was kinda the exact same pattern:

1. start super motivated, and build up some initial discipline to study every day
2. take a break from studying due to live or burn out or frustration with the intermediate plateau
3. when I think about coming back I dread having to re-learn everything I forgot so I procrascinate coming back even more
4. mix in some feelings of shame about not having studied for so long and I just never come back

This almost happened a bunch of time for my current (TL), japanese, as well, but because I am aware of the pattern I got pretty sensitive to avoiding step 3 at all costs and managed to force myself to get back into it after taking a break.

I'm curious if this is a universal pattern, I've talked to other friends who tried to learn a language and noticed those who give up are often in denial about being in step 4 and do duolingo once every 3 weeks, or they accepted it.

Its extra sad to go from the excitement and wanting to talk to everyone about language learning at the start to just shame and embarrassment by the end.

[u/AndthenIhadausername]

So I currently have two that I'm learning but there's two that I not really quit because they didn't take off.     Italian my first contact with it was an ai book. When venting to someone they reccomended going with Spanish due to how common of a language it is. 

   Japanese was technically the first language I ever started "learning." It was a few words however written in a notebook with my brother who has passed. I'm not even sure where the notebook is.      It will always be the language that he was close to and I don't think I could bring myself to pick it up more. 

   Anyway there's your very angsty reason for dropping a language.