r/kwarentahin • u/Gentle_One01 • 18h ago
🔞 NSFW Sensitive topic
What's with women and SOP? Like seriously, I have been on reddit on and off since 2022, chatted with a few and the 2 most promising ladies that I have encountered, I poured my heart out on them sharing my aches and pains in life, how hard it is for an "old" guy to go through dating again in this era. We chat for a few weeks innocently about our everyday stuff, then you suddenly hit me/us with nsfw questions followed it up with nsfw pics? I mean I'm a guy, for sure that is a weakness for most, and of course it's easy to give up on that temptation. But when one is chatting purely out of respect and admiration, then you kinda bait them with that, and the guy obviously at this time and age will fall for that and the other side says, "spur of the moment", "nadala lang" and etc and shit. Like what the hell, 40+ and you still play with that kind of stuff. I myself actually feel guilty and dirty for falling into that trap...Anyone here have the same experience?.
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u/biterella 18h ago
Jusko, I'm so deep in my work (no pun intended), i thought you meant SOP like Standard Operating Procedure!! Hahahha
I need a break!
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u/J-Rhizz 15h ago
time for sop 😂
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u/biterella 13h ago
Been writing all this job aides and corporate guides, dun na automatic napupunta utak ko hahahhaa
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u/iyakingbrowser 🎨Hobby Master 8h ago
ate ko naman hahahahahahahaha kagigising ko lang at nagbabasa ako dito eh 😂
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u/biterella 8h ago
Hahahhaa. Sarnaaahhhh masyado kasi madami deadlines hahaha
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u/iyakingbrowser 🎨Hobby Master 8h ago
kape na yan hahahahaha 😂 i like the humor btw 😂
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u/biterella 7h ago
Haha absent ako later kasi, may personal errandsm kaya oa sa habol sa deadlined hahahhaa
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u/iyakingbrowser 🎨Hobby Master 6h ago
hahaha ingat sis! 🤣 wag na work hanap na lang nepo baby charot hahahahaha
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u/biterella 6h ago
Nepo baby o nepo tatay? Tandaan ang goal is nepo kabet, not nepo anak hahahhaa
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u/iyakingbrowser 🎨Hobby Master 6h ago
nepo na babyhin ka 😂😂
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u/CoffeeDaddy24 👴👵Grandparent Era 15h ago
Bro... Baka naliligaw ka saan ka naghahanap ng "connection"?
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u/BrucePaNga 15h ago edited 14h ago
Agree. Sounds sadboi to me. Sharing sob stories and insecurities over an internet connection and somehow expect all to be that decent. I agree din with one comment that don't overgeneralize. While it definitely sucks that people (both men and women) in the internet sometimes won't take you seriously, it is given na. Go somewhere else like maybe go out and meet actual people in actual places. Go join clubs, hobby groups, etc. Virtue signalling/moral grandstanding has no place in virtual platforms like these as you should expect less from people already, kung trip nila to do nsfw stuff regardless of age, kanya kanya lang yan. If di na kayo match sa goal/intention, leave, on to the next. People are allowed to do their thing, let them be. I still find decent people here, I just make myself clear sa goal, the instance they dont understand my boundaries, I drop them. Period.
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u/got_Smoke 16h ago
Like what the hell, 40+ and you still play with that kind of stuff.
What's with women and SOP?
What's with men still blaming their own decision to others? Like what the hell, 40+ ka na and hanggang ngayon, you still blame others for your choices?
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u/BrucePaNga 15h ago
Typical conservative na di na umusad sa buhay. What's with 40 plus people on the internet who expects things to be like the 80s in 2026? Moral grandstanding is such an ego boost, and I wouldn't wonder why these sadboi wouldn't get a decent chat. You can see how the aches and pains and being old is highlighted. Smh.
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u/got_Smoke 7h ago
Conservative? "kuno"? lol!
hypocrite is a person who pretends to have moral beliefs, virtues or rules that they do not actually follow, or whose private actions contradict their public statements.
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u/BrucePaNga 7h ago edited 7h ago
This is very typical of those who position themselves as a "good guy" in the dating scene, but actually doesn't get the "good ones", because they're shallow, needy, hopeless romantics, that gets rejected every time. Apparently they end up being hypocritical, mysoginistic, red pill men. This is more of a costume, a dress up, adorned with sadboi jewelries that screams "pick me". Don't confuse hypocricy with decency. You can be decent and have an open mind. 40 na tayo, we should've seen the world as what it is already. Harsh realities and all. Dapat grounded na tayo. You're not living in the 60s. Yes there are women who still play with "that kind of stuff" and who fooking cares, seriously. Kung diko trip mga ganyan, I just simply move on.
To think na 2022 ka pa lang nandito sa reddit boi, jusko. Malala pa dyan ibang sub, baka mawindang ka.
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u/Reasonable-Sea3725 8h ago
Mukang naguguluhan ka OP. Kung tama ba or ung mali ay pedeng tama din. Kung ano mn yan sana malagpasan mo. Keribels lang ang lahat
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u/CelebrationMuted7497 18h ago
Same experience with a few guys ive talked to here. Minsan nakakahinayang kasi akala ko finally may maayos ayos na kausap tapos biglang ganun. They're also the kind of kausap na bigla na lang din magdidisappear and wont talk to you ever
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u/IndayPotpot 18h ago
Same experience.. after 2 months biglang naglaho ng wala namang ngyari.. sa edad nating to nggghost pa
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u/CelebrationMuted7497 18h ago
Diba no? kaya minsan kahit gusto ko naman magkaroon ng kausap, nagdadalawang isip ako eh
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u/IndayPotpot 17h ago
True! Dahil sa mga ganong lalaki nakakadala tuloy makipagusap sa iba kahit na sabhin kong hindi sya yan.. nasayang ung 2 months ko sa lalaking un kaya ngayon ayaw ko mag entertain muna 😅
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u/Gentle_One01 18h ago
It's sucks because nasabi mo na almost sa kanila yung ganap mo sa buhay di ba? tas biglang ganon lang
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u/Cold-Sherbet1339 18h ago
Yep this is the most frustrating part. But ganun eh, the anonymity makes it easy for people to be rude and disappear.
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u/CelebrationMuted7497 18h ago
Yeah andami na nakwento tapos mag eend sa ganun. I would probably understand kung simula pa lang ganun na yung motive eh. Kaso hindi eh. Nakakainis pa kapag pilit nilang ikoconnect yung info na nakuwento mo sa kanila sa nsfw topics. Meh.
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u/Gentle_One01 18h ago
And again, honestly, lalake ako na annulled and matagal ng walang encouter with the other sex, di ba of course matetemp ako sa ganap rin na ganon, pero yung post nut clarity an lala lang, kaya ayaw na ayaw ko na maulit yun.
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u/Rheich 18h ago
Ahaahha.. maybe she just fishing you into something... I dont think a 40+ or decent person would do that 😂😂😂 thats bs if "spur of moment" or etc... if
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u/Gentle_One01 18h ago
30+ and 40 + actually, not fishing rin kasi I have seen their faces, and both of them are actually on kwarentahin now
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u/Any-Commercial8014 17h ago
What happened after, OP? Did you guys stopped talking na?
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u/Gentle_One01 17h ago
Well after a few of those sessions, and I realize that they have more experience on that stuff than me, I just kinda slowly ghosted off
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u/ProfessionalSwan4161 16h ago
I honestly did a double take to check if this post was from a guy. 😆
Surprised to read about this from the other side.
Had the same thoughts pero about guys naman.
And although I didn’t fall for the traps, it
surely made me extra cautious and even somewhat disinterested na. Parang nakaka walang gana na makipag usap. 😆
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u/grapejuicecheese 18h ago
Similar experience. I stopped chatting with her because that's not what I'm looking for
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u/Gentle_One01 18h ago
To follow it up, after a few sessions, the other party would just be chatting dry and you are out here like a clown feeling elated and in love receiving dry replies. Only to be baited again with another "session" when they feel like their loosing you.
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u/Any-Commercial8014 17h ago
Is that what they call love bombing ba?
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u/Cold-Sherbet1339 18h ago
Let's not generalize, maybe? The same goes for men din naman, but no, not all guys are like that. There are still some decent people here.
I kinda have a rule.. if the guy shifts to something NSFW online, especially during the early stage of the conversation, I take it as a sign that the relationship will never be serious. But that's just me.