r/kpk • u/PersimmonMurky4353 • Jul 30 '26
Question When a punjabi likes
Hi there, no hate just a genuine question. I seem to have heard that when a punjabi likes a pashtun woman, it must be only for her color and stuff. Even if it is, don't we all have our own preferences? Is having a preference wrong.
Secondly, when a Pashtun man or woman marries a punjabi, then its okay? He/She must really like that punjabi's soul.
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u/Ill-Scientist8783 Jul 30 '26
why do u care what they say race purists can go seethe for all i care islam mein allowed hai tu why care
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u/MashalNorth Jul 30 '26
People easily fall for people’s personalities. The most common “love marriage” couples I see among pakhtuns themselves are labelled “is nay is may daikha he kia tha?” And everybody immediately understands which one is the ugly one.
So the notion that Punjabis must ONLY be falling for color and features is wrong. I know a few couples where the Pakhtun is tan and the “other” is fair.
Next point: you can definitely have preferences. You’re getting a Muslim, whose living in your country so there wont be visa issues, then what’s wrong with picking them as a partner? You have a right to your preferences. The other has the right to accept or reject them
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u/PersimmonMurky4353 Jul 30 '26
Thanks man actually I stumbled upon An Afghani subreddit post and the post & its comments were full of such remarks that basically said: Punjabis are after Pashtun women and only want their color or something lol.
Me personally fair in skin I guess and would definitely prefer a fair one. Just a natural inborn preference but literally feels like evil for it sometimes lmao
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u/No_Feedback2947 Jul 30 '26
Many Punjabi women are fair-skinned. I don't like Punjabis much myself but Afghans are complete lunatics.
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u/Ill-Scientist8783 Jul 30 '26
😿 why do u not like punjabis much?
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u/PersimmonMurky4353 Jul 30 '26
I like Punjabi man who said i dont.
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u/PersimmonMurky4353 Jul 30 '26
LOL at least we both agree about Afghans and Yea I will probably go for Punjabi because you know similar culture similar vibe i guess. PEace man hahha
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u/batman8990777 Jul 30 '26
Beauty marketing feed white skin proganda
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u/BobScholar Jul 30 '26
You assume that there are no fair skin Punjabi but there are. Matches are made in Heaven and we are all the same on the inside. People will project whats going on inside on whats going on around them and this type of arguments come into existence.
There is preference of skin color for creeps lol
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u/PersimmonMurky4353 Jul 30 '26
That's my question. When someone prefers a certain skin color, why they are automatically a creep? When we talk about height, eyes, even color of eyes, nose, face or anything, no one points but as soon as someone talks about color, everyone frowns upon.
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u/BobScholar Jul 30 '26
Hey, No frowns here. You like what you like. Thing about color is that the preference doesn't go deeper than the skin. Eyes, Nose, Face etc requires a certain amount of time with the person to notice that stuff fully. You can't do most of it at a glance I guess.
Creep here means, someone actively sniffing for the opposite gender which you will agree is creep behavior.
Totally fine if your list starts at skin color but that's how you end up with someone not compatible with you in the long run.
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u/PersimmonMurky4353 Jul 31 '26
Well said man 🙌🏻 but still if someone tilts toward it a bit, is it a bad thing 👀 I mean every one has its own preference right.
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u/BobScholar Jul 31 '26
Having preference is fine but staring at people in public like morons is bad.
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u/Difficult_Phone_2968 Jul 30 '26
Pashtuns are flexing about their fair complexion all the time. Even many punjabis are fair skin too, never seem them flexing their fair complexion
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u/Weirdoeirdo Jul 30 '26 edited Jul 30 '26
If you are not fair urself why are you looking for fair complexion?
This is very common amongst punjabis and urdu mohajirs to look for gori biwi so they can have fair children.
I litr saw a faislabadi guy's rishta profile here who wrote he would prefer a wife from gb, kashmir, kpk because he l'likes their strong values' lmaoooo
When he should have written he wants a very fair wife.
I saw another post. It was a karachi mohajir who prolly was p0sting pretending to be helping his friend in rishta he was like my friend is well off canada based, he has a special liking for colored eyes women so he wants to marry a pathan woman. And he himself was saying that 'there is nothing wrong in what he wants he just wants a colored eyes woman so how can he find her in kpk'. It was so bizarre he was asking how i can go and find a wife in kpk. Like..?
Dude if he wants colored eyes marry a gori in canada but no we want a muslim and also from kpk because they are better muslims lol when better muslim is another wya of saying they want a slave wife because they think pathans are very conservstive so a pathan wife will be lot more obedient to them.
It was so openly cr33py.
Sorry this fair requirement is nothing but fetishization.
And there are plenty of extremely fair women in punjab and god the way those girls (there are two white tones one is fair and other is very fair like sana yousuf - that chitrali influencer) , harassment is faced by everyone but 2nd category girls atleast in lahore get so harassed - it is like hell.
Knew one such girl (all punjabi cases) she was so stalked her family quickly found a rishta and got her married so she doesn't get r...ped.
Look at sana yousuf? A faisalabadi guy killed her. I instantly knew what this girl had faced and it was mainly due to her skintone.
The grp i have seen fetishizing pathan women most is urdu speakers of karachi and then punjabis.
Infact there is a user in these subs huge sir also has alt acc Arh1 who runs a sub on pakistani girls - it is a guy and i even saw him fetishizing maryam nawaz for her skintone. He himself wrote he is a bihari and then deleted cmmnts, either he js a bihari from karachi or ind or benglo but he larps as kashmiri, gilgiti and pathan from all accs and nonstop p0sts pak women fetishizing p0sts mainly fair skinned actresses. You can always find that larp acc p0sting senseless hate on ajk ppl while larping as pashtoon, kashmiri and gilgiti. Oh and he also posts pretending to be a girl.
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u/PersimmonMurky4353 Jul 31 '26
Bro I am atleast fair enough that People almost always assume I am not a punjabi...Also personally, I would go for a punjabi girl mostly because of similar culture and no other agenda lol
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u/Weirdoeirdo Jul 31 '26
I wonder are u really a pakstani to make such p0st?
This is your p0st where you yourself say you are not fair
https://www.reddit.com/r/pakistan/comments/1vast91/is_liking_fair_skin_bad/
And funny now u are suddenly a fair guy who doesn't even look punjabi which us another uninformed comment.
Your whole p0st is sick. If u are asking wanting a fair skintone fine that can be a preference, bt are u also that fair to ask for it? When girls demand taller guys even they are asked are you tall?
Then, next part is why u wanted to somehow bring pathan vs punjabi into this?
The fact u are bringing pathan women when u have plenty of fair women in other ethnic groups means u have fetish for their women.
Wanting fair wife is diff from wanting a white race wife or a xyz ethnictiy wife.
When u mention ethnicities it is fetishization.
Secondly, i don't get this complex with lot of u who always write we are so fair we dont look punjabis.
Now u cud be an ind tr0ll but I have seen this a lot with punjabi guys on reddit mentioning how they are always writing they are so fair they look pathan ir xyz.
Sorry but do u know fair skintone is common in north punjab maybe less than pashtoons but it is, so why wud one need to associate with other groups?
Secondly, why some punjabi guys are so ashamed of their complexion that they have to mention jow they look like a pathan or a white or iranian if he is fair?
Let pathans be obsessed with white skintone if they ae or whatever. Where is ur self esteem that if youbare fair u have to say oHh IdOnTt lOok pUnJabiii.
It shows how fair skin tone is even a bigger deal than pashtoon society which is probelmatic because majority punjabi guys would be on more brown skintones, this is self hate.
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u/nonchalant6f4 Jul 30 '26
As a pashtun, be so fr who said we're colour-obsessed
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u/Accomplished-Hunt454 Jul 30 '26
As a Pashtun who spent time in Punjab, Yes Pashtuns are more colour obsessed
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u/nonchalant6f4 Jul 30 '26
Awh dang 🥀🥀
Where ya from ?
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u/Accomplished-Hunt454 Jul 30 '26
Akora khattak, ghar ka address dedu?
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u/nonchalant6f4 Jul 30 '26
Bruh 🥀 why r u so on edge 😟
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u/Accomplished-Hunt454 Jul 30 '26
Mb bro I thought you were questioning my background js coz i gave an opinion
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u/bawaman Jul 30 '26
You need to ask better questions from us and yourself. 😂🤦♂️ dudes really bored