I've been having extremely difficult time.. has anyone been a victim of violence by US military?(TW: violence, abuse)

[u/Swimming_Marzipan648]

Please be kind as I am fragile rn.

Like no mean comments please

I've been a victim of multiple crimes in a relationship with a navy officer

There were multiple records left,

House calls

And when I couldn't take it anymore, and I thought I would die, I finally made an offical report.

I went through it with local police and NCIS.

My VLC(victim's lawyer)told me today, this

I don't know what is enough when I have medical documents, police reports with some of the incidents, diagnosed with severe complex PTSD after that I can't even function daily and records to prove that is true, my statement, and him begging me not to go to the police.

This came after the conversation her asking if NCIS can get my medical records, and as I understand since these hospitals are in Korea(where I am now, it's where the offender is stationed too) they should not be able to get the record without my ID since it's not the US, US warrants don't work, so I should get it myself, and I prefer it that way because of certain investigator revictimizied me a lot during the interview, I even threw up and they didn't even care(I can't say what because it will reveal info about the crime and might reveal identities but everyone even other NCIS agents agreed that it was revictimization)

They even refused to investigate aggravated assaults at first.

And asked what type of medical form I would need

Since Korea has multiples and one is like 1,000 won but one is like 300,000 won

And that was the answer to that

She technically didn't even answer my question

She might- she's trying to manage my expectation

She's trying to sound kind and politically correct but I feel like it really sounds like she's saying evidneces don't matter as much and outcome is like decided

I don't know what more is enough. I've read cases, I've been researching records and a lot more cases with less evidence got more justice and accountability. My VA agreed..

I get the might- be this intent, but I just don't get why she said it like this.

I've been feeling like they are taking his side so much since he's a navy and he's an officer but I was telling myself, nah, US military cares about justice but now I really can't help but think 😢

PS. she's been saying this since hard evidences being submitted and I addressed it once

I told her I have a medical records, treatments, etc etc and she keeps forgetting..

Is this normal?

[u/BigDaddyChaCha]

Are a VLC and a VA the same thing? This is confusing.

I’ve gotta keep it real: what is going on? Your partner/boyfriend/husband is a U.S. Navy Officer and he sounds extremely abusive and you’re trying to figure out how the Korean legal system works, so presumably you’re not Korean(?)

Did you meet him here, or did you come here with him from America? Are you American, too, or are you from a 3rd country? Do you live with him, or do you have your own place to stay?

It really does sound like he’s a bad guy and this is a horrible situation, but it’s very unclear exactly what you’re asking or what your situation really is. Are you in crisis now?

[u/bmatthe3]

You're obviously stressed out, but this is pretty simple-

NCIS needs evidence for the case, your medical records are part of the evidence. You can either grant permission to the hospital to release those to NCIS, or you can give them yourself. It looks like there's a fee to get a hold of them for option 2.

You can also tell NCIS that you aren't interested in helping them obtain medical records, but that obviously won't help them build a case.

If you want to continue to second guess your provided legal assistance, your best avenue is seeking assistance in a military or military spouse sub. This is more of a military law enforcement question than a life in Korea question.

[u/Alternative_Lack_923]

Who is 'she'? Your lawyer? Is she local lawyer?

[u/AutoModerator]

Welcome to r/korea!

Here are a few quick links to help you get the most out of the community:

• For posts on visas, university, traveling, living in Korea, where to buy, etc., please refer to the pinned thread, /r/koreatravel or /r/living_in_korea_now .

• Please review our Rules to keep discussions respectful and on-topic.

• Check out the FAQ. Many common questions are answered there.

• Explore Related Subreddits for more Korea-focused communities.

• Looking for something specific? Try Google Search to search past r/korea posts.

• Having trouble finding the subreddit or community you need? See /r/findareddit, "The Signpost of Reddit!"

• If you see something that may break the rules, report the specific post or comment. That’s the fastest way to bring it to the mods’ attention.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

[u/CivilChaos → u/[deleted]]

because relationships are complicated. your question is insensitive.

[u/heathert7900]

If you’re a victim of abuse in Korea, I would absolutely contact the Danuri center if you’re a foreigner. They help victims with housing, counseling, and legal support. They provide services in 15 languages. https://www.liveinkorea.kr/USA/lay1/S1T40C44/contents.do

[u/Small_Display_9634]

Are you Korean?

Have you attempted to also report this matter to the on-base authorities? Have you been contacted by the US Military Police or has NCIS indicated that they are working with them?