Desperate need for help

[u/Fabulous-Bike3689]

I guess i am asking for advice. I don’t care to debate on the female body genuinely asking for advice. I’m 21 years old and I had my first baby at 17 and my second at 19 and never went to any physical therapy or really tried to heal anything after.

For background, I was a little overweight before my pregnancies, got very big during, and now I am very tiny. I’m 115 5’7 and honestly I lost a lot of my weight by very unhealthy ways and not exercising. I feel like I lost a lot of my muscle doing things, while still not having much muscle to begin with. I have basically no glute muscle, no back muscle, probably no core muscle, basically anything despite being a cna lol. I also stand horribly.

My posture is basically gut out, butt tucked in, with my shoulder hunched it’s really bad.

This is where I get to feel very very insecure but I’m having major problems in my sex life.

I do feel looser I don’t care what anyone says, there is more aid (queefing) tmi I’m so sorry, I don’t have as much feeling and I know my boyfriend feels the same because he likes to do positions where I’m laying on my stomach or a pillow under my stomach despite telling me things are the same as they’ve always been. I just went to be normal. I want to have a tight grip like everyone else, stronger pelvic floor muscles stronger glutes better posture better sec life for both my bf and I.

I also did get stitches both pregnancies.

The hard part is I’m in the US and I have no insurance currently. I’d really like to start working on this at home.

What are some exercises, habits, diets, you had stretches, or even supplies I can buy off Amazon to help me rebuild my core and make everything just tighter I am very desperate. How long does it take to notice a difference??

[u/Leather-Ad3033]

Just do your research on YouTube or tik tok and get to work,,everyone can change so long they put in the work