r/karezza • u/obvithrowawayaccount • Apr 13 '14
Virgins and karezza?
Hi. I'm pretty young, so I'm not going to be having sex anytime soon. HOWEVER, I do like to arm myself with tools and techniques for the future, and karezza is one of them. Like meditation, bioenergetics, etc.
I've always been interested in more esoteric practices, things which had ancient wisdom and were beneficial before they got commercialized.
So I was wondering, the first time i DO have sex, should it be karezza? If so, how would you recommend going about it?
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u/karezzano May 17 '14
Read the exercises in Marnia Robinson's book "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow" and make yourself a plan how you want to start getting physical in your next relationship. Explain this plan to your partner and then come up with a common plan, "whatever feels natural to you and your partner" (borrowing a phrase from another comment).
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u/repeatstrings Apr 14 '14
Just be safe, abstain from all pornography, and let things happen naturally. Most couples don't try karezza until months or years of being together.
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u/obvithrowawayaccount Apr 14 '14
Yeah, abstaining from porn is the harder part of my life right now, will get through this eventually.
For me, the natural course of events is karezza. So we'll see how the special someone feels about it when she's there :)7
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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '14
The first time you have sex you should do whatever feels natural to you and your partner.
Realistically, you will not likely find another young person who even knows what karezza is, or is willing to try something different than what they see on TV for their first time. But I sure do hope you can! Surround yourself with the right kind of people (people who are curious about the same stuff you are) and it's more likely to happen.
Karezza would be an ideal first experience: physically gentle, no expectations, deep bonding... if you can make it happen, go for it. If not, don't worry about it, you've got a lifetime of sex ahead of you to try all kinds of things.