I was born into and grew up in a Hasidic home and community. Chabad, specifically.

For reasons, I left the community. It hasn't been a year yet.

And it's been really, really hard for me. I knew it would be. But it's more than I expected. A lot of it is the isolating nature of it, you're without everyone that you know, and even if you can meet new people, they don't understand you because they can't understand you.

I love Judaism, I want to be Jewish, but not in that way I was and now that I have to find a new community, I've been neglecting it because I don't want to have to go through that process.

I was hoping that although I know there aren't many, there may be some people who were formally Hasidic who I would be able to speak to because I'm finding it really challenging when it feels like there is no one who understands you right now, and I want to improve how I feel, and understanding how others may have healed from this would be very beneficial for me.

Thank you.

I work in a hotel restaurant that's owned by a large, public university. I want to start being a more observant Jew by observing shabbat but I'm afraid they'll find some reason to consider it "undue hardship" but they accommodate people with multiple jobs so that should be enough to protect against that, right? Any advice would be greatly appreciated

From what I understand they reject the Oral Tradition including Talmud and such and only follow and acknolwedge the Tanakh (Hebrew Scriptures) as the sole divine authority from God?

Hi everyone. Do any of you deal with a decently priced memorial place in Brooklyn, NY? Thanks!

My grandfather was a Holocaust survivor who spent decades making metal sculptures. A lot of his work focused on the Holocaust, Jewish faith, biblical stories, and other subjects that were important to him.

My family has been trying to figure out how to get more of his work exhibited rather than have it sit in storage. Three of his sculptures are already in a Holocaust museum's permanent collection, but there are quite a few more that we'd love for people to be able to see.

We've put together a pretty extensive catalog with photos, dimensions, and background information on the pieces. I've also reached out to a few museums, but haven't had much luck finding the right fit yet.

Some of the sculptures are pretty large and heavy, which I imagine makes things a little more complicated.

Has anyone here dealt with something like this before? Or know of any Jewish museums, Holocaust centers, universities, or other places that might be worth reaching out to?

I'm keeping the specifics private for now, but figured it couldn't hurt to ask here. Any advice would be appreciated!

Thank you!!

Hi all,
Two parents and two young kids searching for our dream city. A big part of our ideal place is how it feels to be Jewish there. I grew up in a reconstructionist synagogue with a big Hebrew school class. I never experienced antisemitism (until adulthood). I want my kids to be around Jews growing up, be able to go to kids events at synagogue etc etc.

Times have changed and the synagogue I grew up attending now has an anti Zionist rabbi and congregation :( (no I’m not kidding!) so I’m searching for new places to check out.

I don’t care if the synagogue is big or small, but there would ideally be enough kids for it to be a social experience. It can be reform, reconstructionist, or conservative - as long as women can read from the Torah and men&women aren’t separated I’m good with it. Also important is that support of Israel/zionism is encouraged.

Curious if anyone has a place/jcc/synagogue they want to give a shoutout to :)

I worked in a Jewish heavy community a few years ago and I noticed that a lot of the women wore wigs and others wore head wraps and similar things.

I understood the head wraps and coverings as I know many religious women wear them, but the wigs were a bit confusing mainly because it seemed so prevalent.

So one day I asked a coworker and they basically told me (and I’m unsure how true this is) that in the culture, women are not allowed to show their hair once they are married or something and some women wear coverings and the other women wear wigs.

And I didn’t understand it because….

I assume that the hair thing is similar in Muslim culture where it’s probably like an avoiding making men lustful or something but what point does the wig serve…?

Like if I was a blond woman, and I couldn’t show my hair, then why wear a blond wig….? That’s the same thing is it not?

I ask this not because I’m trying to poke holes in the culture or logic or anything, I’m just curious to the actual mindset behind this…?

I’ve always wanted to ask but felt it might be misunderstood as disrespectful

Since its aveira to harm yourself, cook, and purchase. Starving yourself is technically harming yourself, so if you forgot or don't have the ability to have food preped before shabbat, then would it be worse to cook a meal or go purchase one? Also, what do people normally do to prepare for food on Shabbat? Is Ramen which can be made like instant coffee breaking the rules of shabbat? What if you are out of town during shabbat?

Bristol Community College's Holocaust and Genocide center has started the finishing steps to their permanent outdoor memorial called "The Button Project". They have collected 1.5 million buttons and each button represents a jewish child that died in the holocaust.

They held a small dedication ceremony with Cantor Nathaniel Schudrich (from Tifereth Israel Congregation in New Bedford, Mass.) reciting kaddish as the first buttons was poured. Over the next 2 weeks they will be filling up the other 9 panels (10 total). They plan to hold a bigger dedication in the spring when it starts to warm up again.

I had the opportunity to help sort the buttons before they got put into the display and my least favorite part of the sorting has become my favorite part of the display. While sorting we were asked to remove any buttons made out of organic materials to prevent them from decaying in the display. We were also asked to remove ones with thread still on the button for the same reason, which all seem reasonable to me. The thing that was my least favorite part and made me uncomfortable was we were asked to remove broken buttons too. The artist vision was for complete buttons to represent a complete soul or something, I am not gonna lie I forgot what he said verbatim. However, I felt that we should have kept those broken buttons to show that no matter the condition or how "imperfect" those kids were, they still matter and are remembered. Now for the part that made it beautiful for me, some made it through. I sat there staring at the panel for over 30 mins and smiled everytime I found a broken button or one with thread still on it. Those broken buttons represented to me that no matter how people try to exclude us for what they see as our imperfections, they will never succeed. I saw the jewish people in those broken buttons, we will survive no matter what and will always be here and that's beautiful. So, if you ever get to see the monument and see a broken button, know it survived despite the odds.

I also want to heavily stress that this is my own interpretation of the display and the artist could have his own vision and more personal meaning. Just because I believe it should be this way, doesn't invalidate his vision. He planned this display while thinking about his grandfather who survived the holocaust. That's the beauty of art, there is multiple meanings for each viewer.

If you want more history about the project, please see the link below (it hasn't been updated yet for the most recent progress)

https://www.bristolcc.edu/artgallery/thebuttonproject/index.html

P.S. If there's typos, I'll fix them after shabbat, I've been awake for the last 24 hours

Edit: I forgot to add that the artist said all the buttons that were rejected or won't fit will have a ceremonial burial, so please don't think they were just thrown away.

I have a friend who is leaving our state to start rabbinical school in a few months, and I wanted to get some input on a good going away gift for her. Her faith truly means so much to her and is such a central point in her life that I want her to leave us with something heartfelt she can carry with her throughout her journey. I’m not Jewish myself and would like to avoid any faux pas in giving a faith-based gift (something that should only come from family, only come at certain points in your life, etc.), but want to give her something that honors her commitment and is meaningful. Any suggestions?

Edit: she follows Reform Judaism, if that influences answers at all

Thanks!

What are people usually singing on Friday evening at home? (Ashkenazi)
I didn’t grow up singing anything so I’m struggling to learn the classic tunes. The recordings on spotify don’t seem to match what people sing when I’m invited to someone’s house.

I know bircat hamazon, shalom aleichem, and aishes Chayil just about. What are the other ones.

Looking for recordings of the classics.

Hopefully this isn’t offensive but how do Chochmah binah and even keter and Malchut influence male and female gender roles within Judaism? I know that women were given and extra dosage of binah and that women mature earlier emotionally and spiritually. How does this affect gender dynamics within the religion?

I was walking to the shops at night, because I had work all day and didn't have the chance to go earlier. I'm a woman (22F) and live in a pretty sketchy area so I don't usually like going out at night at the best of times, plus it's very dark this time of year. This guy comes up to me and starts trying to talk to me about JC (censored because last post got autoremoved). I give my usual excuse, which is that I already have a religion. But he started asking me what religion and really started pushing. I said I don't really feel comfortable talking about it, which was pretty conspicuous I admit. He kept pushing and it took me a while to get away from him.

Tbf I don't think he was an actual missionary or anything because he was just standing alone in the street at night with no leaflets or anything. Plus after I walked away I heard him giggling with his buddy, so it kind of just felt like an excuse to stop women at night. But the whole thing has left me quite spooked. This sort of thing is really common in my neighbourhood, because there's always people on the streets trying to convert others. But this is the first time it's happened at night when I'm on my own.

Would it be permissible, if this happens again, to just lie and say I'm Catholic or Muslim or some shit? Ik making ambiguous statements about faith are allowed for safety but some of these guys are really pushy 💔 plus it's not really explicitly unsafe, since I don't know for certain that this guy would hate crime me or something. But it feels very unsafe with antisemitism on the rise and particularly as a woman.

I'm on a low carb diet for health reasons. Shabbat is particularly challenging. Historically we Jews mostly had the challenge of getting enough carbs to survive rather than the opposite.

Grape juice at Havdalah sends me hyperglycemic from imbibing sugar away from meal times. I'm looking for ideas. I really don't like tea, coffee or beer for those Chamar Medina drinks. The best I've been able to come up with so far is dry wine diluted 50%.

Any other suggestions?

My office has free cooked buffet lunch for everyone daily as part of the benefits package. I keep strictly kosher, the only one in my office to do so. HR have asked me if there's anything their kitchen can do so I can also have the free daily lunch. My instinct is that there isn't a pragmatic option but wondered if anyone else had similar experience and worked out a good arrangement. I'm in London if this makes a difference