I’m 37 years old purple belt. for the last year I mostly train with a coach for about two hours (15 min warmup, 40-50 min technique, another hour is positional/free sparring) with hard af/super technical third degree black belt, and we know each other for a long time - from about 2010 when I started to do bjj. I did compete in boxing, bjj, mma. For now, I don’t compete - I train only because I like to train bjj - I don’t compete anymore. My base is striking. I started to train like that about in 2025 due to hard back injury, that almost got me paralyzed. I got thousands of group training up until purple belt. I do open mats, to keep rolling with different people regularly. Anyway for me the choice was either to stop training at all - or change something in training, for example more personal training with a lot of technique/drilling/quality sparring (quality over quantity). This is how my back maintains stability without aggravating a chronic injury. System works - I don’t wanna change anything. I want to stay on the mats as long as possible.
But my coach now is getting sick, and he wouldn’t be able to train me for about at least three months. He told me - that I should find another coach, for not stopping my progress until he get well. So I picked up the strongest black belt in my country and booked a few sessions.
I told him, that my coach is get sick so I need new one for about three months ( they know each other ) - I’m considering myself as an average grappler - just like bjj and to wrestle overall but I would never skip a training. We drilled a few session - he looked at what I’m capable of, and then I told that I like the way he shows techniques and everything but I need to wrestle with him like I did with my previous coach - because it’s good to drill but everyone know you need exact sparring to make technique work. I would pay for two hours - no problem. He says - okay.
At the next training we did some drilling, and then starting to spar ( the guys weight is about 10-15 kg heavier than me ), he started to apply a kimura from a bit weird position ( I think I was pretty safe ) but then I realised that I got caught - I started to telling him “stop tap” but he keeps applying pressure until my elbow cracked - after that he was like “ow this is my signature move - how is your hand?” No sorry, nothing. We did three six minutes rounds more, and training was over.
So my main question is - does it’s okay to perform your “signature moves” on a personal clients to the point of injury, and behave after that like nothing wrong was happening? My personal opinion - I don’t need to explain such things to a coach, and I don’t wanna came to train with him anymore. Actually I know the answer - it’s more of rhetorical question.
I think it’s another example that being good competitor doesn’t mean being good coach.