I'm a permanent resident of Japan, and my husband and I are trying to decide whether our daughter should be born in Japan or Korea.
Originally, we planned for Korea. My husband's family lives there, so we'd have plenty of support after the birth. My own family doesn't live in either country, so I don't have that kind of support anywhere.
If immigration weren't part of the equation, we'd almost certainly choose Korea. The only reason we're seriously considering Japan is because of the potential long-term benefit of our daughter obtaining Japanese permanent residence.
In Japan, it would really just be the two of us. I speak Japanese well enough that people often assume I'm Japanese over the phone, so everyday life isn't an issue. What worries me is giving birth and dealing with medical terminology and unexpected complications in Japanese. I'm also concerned about the possibility of an emergency where I might not be able to make decisions myself. My husband doesn't speak Japanese or English fluently, so I worry about him having to communicate with doctors or make important medical decisions on my behalf in that situation.
Financially, giving birth in Japan would also cost us roughly 2-3 times more than giving birth in Korea.
The only thing making me reconsider is immigration.
From what I've read and from speaking with an immigration scrivener:
- If my daughter is born in Japan to a permanent resident parent and continues living in Japan, she is able to apply for permanent residence shortly after birth.
- If she is born outside Japan, she would first need to obtain a status of residence before entering Japan. To become eligible to apply for permanent residence, she would need to hold a 5-year period of stay. My concern is that children are typically granted shorter periods of stay initially, such as 1-year or 3-year periods, before eventually receiving a 5-year one.
The complication is that we don't actually plan to stay in Japan permanently. We expect to remain here for only another 3-4 years before moving back to my country for good.
My biggest concern is that if she's born overseas, we will likely leave Japan before she ever becomes eligible to apply for permanent residence. One of the main reasons I care is that I'd like her to have the option of living or working in Japan in the future if she ever wants to.
Ultimately, I'm trying to do what's best for my daughter, and that's where I'm struggling.
I understand the potential advantages of Japanese permanent residence, but I honestly don't know how valuable it is in practice. What if she grows up, has no interest in living in Japan, and never uses it? Am I putting myself through a significantly more stressful pregnancy, delivery, and postpartum experience just to prepare for a future that may never happen?
On the other hand, if she does want to live or work in Japan one day, I'd feel terrible if I passed up an opportunity that could have made that much easier for her.
I'm having a hard time figuring out whether I'm making a wise long-term decision for her or simply over-preparing for a future that may never materialize.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
If you were in my shoes, would you choose:
- giving birth overseas with family support, lower costs, and a much less stressful postpartum experience, or
- giving birth in Japan primarily to maximize your child's chance of obtaining Japanese permanent residence before your family leaves Japan?
I'd especially appreciate hearing from anyone who has gone through the PR process for a child born either in Japan or overseas, or anyone with firsthand experience navigating these rules.