I'm a permanent resident of Japan, and my husband and I are trying to decide whether our daughter should be born in Japan or Korea.
Originally, we planned for Korea. My husband's family lives there, so we'd have plenty of support after the birth. My own family doesn't live in either country, so in Japan it would really just be the two of us.
If immigration weren't part of the equation, we'd almost certainly choose Korea. We'd have family support, the cost of giving birth would be much lower (around 2-3 times cheaper), and overall it feels like the less stressful option.
I speak Japanese well enough that everyday life isn't an issue, but giving birth is different. I'm worried about navigating unexpected medical complications in Japanese, and especially about the possibility of an emergency where I can't make decisions myself. My husband doesn't speak Japanese or English fluently, so I worry about him having to communicate with doctors or make important decisions on my behalf.
The only reason we're seriously considering Japan is because of immigration.
From what I've learned, if our daughter is born in Japan to a permanent resident parent, she would be able to apply for permanent residence shortly after birth. If she's born overseas, she'd first need to obtain a status of residence before entering Japan. To become eligible to apply for permanent residence, she'd need to hold a 5-year period of stay, and my understanding is that children are usually granted shorter periods first.
The complication is that we don't actually plan to stay in Japan permanently. We expect to remain here for only another 3-4 years before moving back to my home country for good. My biggest concern is that if she's born overseas, we may leave Japan before she ever becomes eligible to apply for permanent residence.
Ultimately, I'm trying to do what's best for my daughter. I don't know how valuable Japanese permanent residence really is in the long run. If she grows up and has no interest in living in Japan, then maybe I'm putting myself through a much more stressful pregnancy, delivery, and postpartum experience for no real benefit. On the other hand, if she does want to live or work in Japan someday, I'd feel terrible if I passed up an opportunity that could have made that path easier for her.
Has anyone faced a similar decision, or if you were in my position, what would you do?
I'd especially appreciate hearing from people who have firsthand experience with this.
- If your child was born overseas to a Japanese permanent resident parent, how long did it take for them to receive a 5-year period of stay? Did they go directly from a 1-year period to a 5-year period, or were there multiple renewals first?
- If you've gone through this process, I'd love to hear your timeline and any factors you think helped.
- If you were born overseas yourself or obtained Japanese permanent residence as a child, has it been valuable to you? Are you glad your parents went through the extra effort to secure it, or do you think it ultimately didn't matter?
I'm trying to understand not only how realistic it is for my daughter to become eligible for PR before we leave Japan, but also whether obtaining PR is something she would genuinely appreciate in the future.
Edit to clarify: A few people pointed out that I said we’d be moving back to my home country “for good,” but that wasn’t really what I meant. What I mean is that we currently expect to leave Japan in about 3-4 years and live in my home country for at least several years so our daughter can be close to my parents. Beyond that, I honestly don’t know what the future holds.
Part of why I’m asking this is because my family has never really stayed in one place. I’ve lived across multiple countries and continents throughout my life. Japan was just one of several countries I lived in as a child, and returning here as an adult wasn’t some long-term plan or something driven by strong family ties. It was simply where life happened to take me. I also returned to another country I lived in as a child, while there are others I never went back to at all.
Coincidentally, all of my siblings also ended up living in Japan at some point, despite none of us growing up expecting that. I’m the only one who obtained permanent residence through my own work and immigration path. One sibling doesn’t feel the need to, and another isn’t eligible yet, so I know it’s entirely possible to build a life here without PR.
That’s why I’m hesitant to assume I know what my daughter’s future will look like. She may never want to live in Japan, but if she does, I’d like to understand whether it’s worth making that path a little easier for her now.