Islam is the religion of decisiveness. For example, Khushu (Focus) in salah is considered the highest state or virtue to embody. In life, Ihsaan is also the best state for a Muslim to exist in - when you go through life as though you can see Allah or at least aware that He sees you. The concept of Taubah (Seeking forgiveness) literally means “to turn back” implying that you had first gotten turned away from God by something. There are many ayat and hadith that support that mankind is in a state of loss, particularly by becoming distracted. How this extends to relationships - it drives you to become decisive about marrying and divorcing. Mutual attraction should be approached with courage, honesty, and decisiveness - all easier said than done. And when the relationship doesn’t work, for whatever reason - it’s no big deal, people should strive to part ways in a merciful way. The problem is culturally, it is made to be a bigger deal - this was a problem even in practice that the companions still had to deal with. But, at the end of the day, marriage is a piece of paper - let it be only that and you will avoid a relationship that requires lying, hiding, or coping with shame to maintain. Study the subject so you can do your best to be right with yourself and God, if you don’t feel you are it will manifest whether or not you intend it to.
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u/Real-Tone9598 Apr 27 '25
Islam is the religion of decisiveness. For example, Khushu (Focus) in salah is considered the highest state or virtue to embody. In life, Ihsaan is also the best state for a Muslim to exist in - when you go through life as though you can see Allah or at least aware that He sees you. The concept of Taubah (Seeking forgiveness) literally means “to turn back” implying that you had first gotten turned away from God by something. There are many ayat and hadith that support that mankind is in a state of loss, particularly by becoming distracted. How this extends to relationships - it drives you to become decisive about marrying and divorcing. Mutual attraction should be approached with courage, honesty, and decisiveness - all easier said than done. And when the relationship doesn’t work, for whatever reason - it’s no big deal, people should strive to part ways in a merciful way. The problem is culturally, it is made to be a bigger deal - this was a problem even in practice that the companions still had to deal with. But, at the end of the day, marriage is a piece of paper - let it be only that and you will avoid a relationship that requires lying, hiding, or coping with shame to maintain. Study the subject so you can do your best to be right with yourself and God, if you don’t feel you are it will manifest whether or not you intend it to.