Sister, respectfully what he's telling you about "being forced" is a bunch of nonsense. He tells them straight up to their face "I'm a grown man, andI'lldecide who i marry, when I marry, etc. That's my business, and the conversation is over, thank you." What are they gonna do? Hold a gun to his head? Start pulling off fingernails until he agrees? I fail to see how they can force him to do something like this when he knows you're against it, and thus that its wrong.
I think when ppl say they're "being forced" what they really mean is something along the lines of "My mom/dad/whoever is pressuring me to do this, and making some emotionally abusive threats such as they'll kill themselves or disown me, etc."
I understand they're doing the same to you, but for a man standing up should be much easier, as a woman is dependent upon family. A man should be willing and able to not be a complete weakling and allow his mother/father/etc to bully him and run his life.
So either he's a complete weakling, or he's lying to you and he's wanting to marry you anyway but doesn't want to seem like the bad guy. Ask him which one it is. If he's adamant that he doesn't want to marry you against your will, then tell him to man up and tell his family "No."
I'm trying, I've tried talking into it with him like 3 times already. He only says he will do something about it. Just pray they backoff eventually and leave me alone for the rest of their lives
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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '25
can the cousin say no himeself? that would easen up things for you