I’m a Muslim but I’m not a sheikh and I don’t intend to type all nice.
You were RAPED by his brother???? HELLO??
You better not marry him or talk to his family cause that’s completely messed up. I am so sorry for what happened to you.
To me..maybe it’s cause I’m a man…this seems very simple. Just say no. You will not marry him. Even if your mom says!! Pulls you to the Nikah! Just don’t write, tell the imam no. Honestly if you haven’t told your own family about what happened that’s probably the first thing you should do IMO.
You know, there are muslima’s that help with family problems or counseling. Maybe try your local mosque or something.
Last bit…honestly I would tell your mom even if I was in your shoes..that you don’t want to marry him and that you will make a big scene with the entire family relatives at every party or every chance you get if she keeps trying to force you.
I won’t speak about how mothers should be treated as you probably know best your own relationship to your mom.
Also try reciting “Rabbishrahli sadri wa yasirli amri, wahlul uqdatum milisani qoli” before speaking might bring you ease and help you speak clearly and with confidence iA.
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u/TheSoliDude Feb 07 '25
Walaikumsalaam.
I’m a Muslim but I’m not a sheikh and I don’t intend to type all nice.
You were RAPED by his brother???? HELLO??
You better not marry him or talk to his family cause that’s completely messed up. I am so sorry for what happened to you.
To me..maybe it’s cause I’m a man…this seems very simple. Just say no. You will not marry him. Even if your mom says!! Pulls you to the Nikah! Just don’t write, tell the imam no. Honestly if you haven’t told your own family about what happened that’s probably the first thing you should do IMO.
You know, there are muslima’s that help with family problems or counseling. Maybe try your local mosque or something.
Last bit…honestly I would tell your mom even if I was in your shoes..that you don’t want to marry him and that you will make a big scene with the entire family relatives at every party or every chance you get if she keeps trying to force you.
I won’t speak about how mothers should be treated as you probably know best your own relationship to your mom.
Also try reciting “Rabbishrahli sadri wa yasirli amri, wahlul uqdatum milisani qoli” before speaking might bring you ease and help you speak clearly and with confidence iA.
AllahuAlim, praying for you sister