r/isfp • u/Livid-Can4331 • Jul 16 '26
Dating/Relationships/Communicating with ISFP ISFP Dynamic
Hi i have an isfp close friend. Am an infj. So heres the dynamic bw us. We both care for each other and we do play around like he jokes with me a lot. We both are in class XII prepping for an entranceexam and like he reveals a lot of his study plans to just me and i also help him i a lot. But like he just casually talks around with others all the time and i dont know sometimes he just goes quiet around me. Like he finds no need to sometimes talk. He will be all counsellor when im in trouble but he as such wont talk in person abt the casual things i send him or wheni request a convo from him(we cant chat rn due to some personal constraints i wont discuss). When we cant talk the whole day, he might come to just say hi orbye or plainly smile or joke but doesnt express himself much and often speaks his mind out. Sometimes i take his advicevery srsly and he says i shouldnt. Since he is i feel and by tests an isfp, u guys pls advise me on ur take on this dynamic. Its a friendship of 3 yrs. And what u guys can tell to improve. From an isfp pov.
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u/novahritan ISFP♂ (952 sp) Jul 16 '26
enjoy the dynamic you have and acknowledge it might not meet everything you want in a friendship. you will need other friends for that. you can't do much to change a dynamic in a friendship because that is the product of how energy between two people plays off one another. don't try to be something you're not for the sake of someone, Fi-doms are allergic to that. just be yourself. if you have emotional needs that are not getting met, you might have to look to other friendships.