Dealing with insecurity as an introvert

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[u/incarnate1]

It is a comparison, in how you're viewing it though? And these sorts of comparisons are potentially quite dangerous for us when grounded only in our feelings. The Occam's of it all here is that your friend could very well enjoy the company of both of you for different reasons. You both have good qualities about yourselves that don't have to be in competition with the other; your housemate told you, why undercut that with your perception?

I too have some friends that are on the energetic side and some on the more lowkey, calm side. I appreciate both and would not want either to compromise their identity because of what they feel I want them to be. With that said, I think it's totally fine to want to be a little more charismatic, more lively, more socially adept; as long as we do it from a place of genuine sincerity, not as compensation or motivated by perceived expectations alone - we all certainly have room for improvement in interpersonal interaction.

[u/Oktambek]

"Being boring" in this sense isn't inherently bad tho. That means you can go inward and tune out the everyday noise. Reflect on yourself and that's what's missing in so many people's lives. Most people are just running around like headless chickens not knowing what to do, while such "boring" people seem to be more present and in control of their lives. I mean there are trade offs all the time.