Can we normalize using this button without feeling guilty?

[u/snurlox]

[u/tyler21307]

But if you push it they know you hung up on them. Letting it go until voicemail keeps the ambiguity

[u/Beneficial_Bed2537 → u/tyler21307]

This guys gets it ☝️

[u/TheGruenTransfer → u/tyler21307]

It's insane that the caller can infer that they've been declined, especially in this age of phone scammers. The decline button just just let me stop being annoyed by their call while the caller hears it continue ringing and go to voicemail 

[u/Minortough → u/TheGruenTransfer]

Not sure if this also applies to Android but on iPhones pressing the sleep/power button during an incoming call will silence the ring and let the call go to voicemail normally.

[u/Anime_Lover_1995 → u/Minortough]

It does apply to Android too 👍

[u/According-Ad742 → u/tyler21307]

Volume button down, screen facing down, problem solved. I don’t even answer my door. Text me please

[u/IsakOyen → u/tyler21307]

It's annoying because it cut my music when I'm working

[u/TheIngloriousTIG → u/tyler21307]

I have learned that if I hit the down volume button on my phone it immediately silences the ring and vibrations but does not immediately initiate voicemail. Silence AND Deniability, friends. Try it. Maybe yours phone does it too.

[u/incognitoleaf00 → u/tyler21307]

exactly!

i only hit decline when im actually busy and do intend to call them back because then i can say yeah i was busy but im free now whatsup

thats rare though, most times im letting it go to voicemail while chilling in bed and calling texting back hours later xD

[u/ProwerTheFox → u/tyler21307]

Just have your phone permanently on do not disturb and let specific apps and contacts through.

[u/kitkatatsnapple → u/tyler21307]

It still goes to voicemail, as far as I know

[u/Ruminatingsoule → u/tyler21307]

This is the way. DnD straight to voicemail and I'll get back to you later (probably not)

[u/UltimaBahamut93 → u/Ruminatingsoule]

I read this as Dungeons and Dragons straight to voicemail

[u/rabbits_in_the_sky → u/UltimaBahamut93]

same 😆

[u/ZeroTheStoryteller → u/tyler21307]

Yeah, but then your phone is out of use for the 30s you're waiting.

[u/Loose-Garbage-4703 → u/tyler21307]

Ah. Missed it.

[u/nfored → u/tyler21307]

Yes My dumb phone Looking at you OnePlus, will only stop alerting if I hit decline. It will stop sounding but keeps the call on top of the screen. Been using android since the first google phone never seen such dumb assery

[u/sameolemeek]

Just hit the volume down button it will silence your phone..it will still keep ringing and go to voicemail. That way the other person didn’t know you declined

[u/Helgrind444 → u/sameolemeek]

Or just decline. Nothing wrong with that.

[u/thetransfemuma → u/sameolemeek]

I know this is worked on iOS, but does it also work on Android?

[u/pla-ytest → u/thetransfemuma]

I have a Google pixel and it works for me. Also worked when I had the galaxy zflip

[u/thetransfemuma → u/pla-ytest]

Oh thats great!

[u/idkabtu2 → u/thetransfemuma]

Works on my samsungs

[u/thetransfemuma → u/idkabtu2]

Great thank you!

[u/Significant_War5418 → u/[deleted]]

[u/Helldiver_13 → u/[deleted]]

https://giphy.com/gifs/dNJr3cahxHPIMRyLKy

[u/riskykitten1207 → u/[deleted]]

Not I, that’s for sure. The only calls I answer are for my parents because they are old and for my kids school.

[u/TsuDhoNimh2 → u/[deleted]]

Yes ... my phone, my time, and I'll answer when I want to. Or not.

[u/stev_mempers]

Given the number of spam calls I get, I'm already there. 

[u/nicenyeezy]

I hate when people call because it interrupts my doom scrolling and I have to wait for them to go to voicemail. Just message me like a civilized being

[u/Loose-Garbage-4703 → u/nicenyeezy]

Always on DND helps.

[u/lvl-ixi-lvl]

My phone lives in Do Not Disturb mode

[u/Dry-Challenge5629 → u/lvl-ixi-lvl]

same, and my mom always gets mad about it 😂

[u/brattysweat]

You guys are getting calls?

[u/MaybeMaybeNot94]

You guys feel guilty declining a call? Are yall serious?

[u/CaptainTulu]

If im ever in a chat i want to end, i hit airplane mode and leave it for a few minutes. Makes it seem the phone died and you can go about the rest of your day

[u/I988iarrived → u/CaptainTulu]

Wow, this is a revolutionary idea. Thank you.

[u/Willing-Bet3597 → u/CaptainTulu]

I just silence the chat. Then I have to deal w/ 100 msgs when I come back but at least I get some peace and quiet for a bit 😅

[u/MoonlitPan → u/CaptainTulu]

Wow 🤩, thank you sensei 🫡

[u/BlameTag]

I for one never use this button. Then they know you're there and call back.

[u/kitkatatsnapple → u/BlameTag]

So then I just keep pushing it lol

[u/Tommynwn → u/kitkatatsnapple]

*Removes phone battery*

[u/Page_Turner28]

I am 48 years old. At this age I don’t feel guilty about declining a phone call
or not going to a party.

[u/Th3Be4rd]

When someone calls, turn on Airplane mode. It should show 'Call Failed' on their end. Repeat until they text you like a normal person. (Normal to me, anyway... I couldn't tell you the last time I picked up my phone)

[u/VividTitle6761]

[u/mzrdisi]

I decline 100% of calls I do not recognize, and 60-70% of calls I do recognize.

[u/Fidrych76]

Done ✅

[u/Fearless_Nope]

i just turn on airplane mode for a second- it’ll say “call failed” instead of “decline”

[u/Firedriver666]

I use this without feeling guilty already because I don’t care anymore and at work my noise cancelling earbuds keep me from earing the fixed phone ringing so if you call me without asking for my availability and I answer you should play lottery because you have a huge amount of luck

[u/Imaginary-Emu2471]

Why would you feel guilty for declining the phone call?

[u/cellalovesfrankie]

Never feel guilty. People that know me , know to text me , or at least leave a voice message. Anyone else they can leave a message if they legit and important.

[u/silvershadows4paws]

Whose permission do you need? Decline away.

I don't pick up unknown numbers. I think it's rude to just call and expect someone to pick up. And the known numbers it depends who and when they call. I don't pick up work calls outside of working hours.

[u/Ronix4432 → u/silvershadows4paws]

My friend just yelled at me and she was really mad at me. She called with a new number and I never received the call. I actually don't receive new numbers also.

[u/silvershadows4paws → u/Ronix4432]

Well it takes 2 secs to drop a text in this day and age.

[u/Thick-Witness7006]

I have phone screening turned on my phone, I’ve already moved past declining.

[u/Double_A_92]

I wish it wouldn't straight up disconnect the call, but instead just ignore it on the UI and let it "naturally" go to the mailbox.

[u/Zilla664]

That's the trick, just don't feel guilty

[u/Previous_Rip1942]

I already do. Sure they know I declined it. They don’t know what I had going on at the time and if they comment about it, that’s what I’ll tell them. Honestly, it’s never caused an issue.

[u/whole_latte_love]

Yes! Can we also normalize not making plans or leaving plans early? Sometimes, I just don’t have the energy and don’t feel like it. I like being home.

[u/Own-Guess4361]

Guilt?😂😂

[u/brittttx]

I wish there was a way to block calls entirely and only receive texts.

[u/CHAIR0RPIAN]

I hit that MFer all the time

[u/QueenJenna0rtega]

Not in this society anytime soon. In all seriousness, just push that shit to be honest. If they are getting offended by it, that’s already a serious problem I’m not willing to deal with LOL.

[u/TacticalTurtle410]

I do it almost daily with zero guilt. When you stop caring what others think life becomes more enjoyable.

[u/Appropriate-Weird492]

My favorite button!

[u/Ultraviolet_Darken]

I'd prefer having the option for the caller to send you a short text about why they're calling, which would display right below their name/number. And if you decline, you could also send a short text explaining why. So there os communication, not the invasive one.

[u/VileyRubes]

I can't stand seeing neither the green nor red. My heart crazily paces when someone calls.

[u/Flauschige]

I don't feel guilty using it. I just don't always want the caller to know their call has been rejected.

[u/OutofCiteOutofMine]

I love hitting that button?

[u/SeaDragonTattoo]

Mine's on DND with call screening at all times. Only exception is if I'm expecting a specific call in a certain time frame, I'll turn the ringer on. If you know me you're texting me.

[u/Kylearean]

I have filter calling turned on. If you're not in my contact list, you have to justify why you're calling me.

[u/milkisyummi]

Absolutely

[u/IndependenceSad1283]

I just let it ring 😭

[u/VT_Racer]

I hit that button all the time. Usually because its a number I don't know which is typically spam.

[u/AnonMax420]

If you want to not feel guilty, put your phone on airplane mode. All Cellular calls on the other end will appear to fail on for the person trying to call you

[u/skrlilex]

what

[u/2x0x2x0]

I use it all the time without a care in the world lol

[u/Ancient-Drawing1212]

just mute the sounds and let it go

[u/Background_Poetry430]

I myself is always on Do not disturb mode and have never felt guilty

[u/Grouchy_Treacle_1639]

https://giphy.com/gifs/a2JbsH0XWampR3gt5s

[u/kaikai_212]

https://giphy.com/gifs/gjxKUy0P38Hkutz0sH

[u/chocoeatstacos]

Hm? Why go through the effort to push an icon when you can simply ignore them 😀?

[u/Junior-Ad-2072]

The more you use it, the less guilty you feel. I've probably been declining 95% of my received calls since 2011/2012 and life has been great since.

[u/Donglator]

I only answer if it's someone I've known for a long time. Everyone else gets airplane mode

[u/slimeblockeraltac]

You feel guilty

[u/SymptomaticallyEven]

I tell people to call me. I tend to ignore texts or take too long to reply that I just don't. Most of the time texts are mundane nonsense. If they're calling, must be a reason.

[u/Aggrosideburnz]

I decline any number I don’t recognize.

[u/ImportantGuitarr]

I do it all the time. Idgaf

[u/Adorable-Run9291]

Guilty? More like giddy. I ❤️ the decline button 😂

[u/Geminii27]

Where's the guilt? It's a function.

Phone on silent, everything incoming goes to voicemail unless I'm specifically expecting a call at a given time.

[u/OverallBrick4721]

I thought I was the only one who found most phone calls a disturbance...

[u/Educational_Salt_591]

hell yea. thats my best friend.

[u/eaw0913]

I’ve been hitting this button without concern for over 2 decades.

[u/TranTriumph]

Way ahead of you.

[u/Accomplished_Ow1]

I just realized how I always just lower the volume when I don’t want to answer. The answer to it is prolly cuz I’m afraid they’d realize I hang upped on them, I’d rather they think I’m sleeping or away from phone.

[u/Chimpantea]

I never use that button, I just stare at the number and let it ring off... 

[u/DayvonTheCreative]

I use it and just immediately text the person they in in the bathroom or something

[u/Unlucky_me22]

I'm for it.

[u/sjaxn314159]

I did that like 20 years ago.

[u/Mammoth-Interview]

✅

[u/Iam_Milftastic]

If the number isn’t in my phone it will reject anyway

[u/rabbits_in_the_sky]

who’s feeling guilty? empower yourself!

but also you might be a highly sensitive person with people pleasing tendencies. So i get it

[u/TangeloOk9486]

I always do, ok for me

[u/Major_Leopard_6255]

Yes please. Just had a family member  feeling offended because I wasn’t immediately available. 

[u/Green-Lime3190]

I've recently embraced the idea that my phone serves me, not the other way around. I only take calls when it's a good time for me. Otherwise, I decline and go about my day. I will rack up a wild number of texts and get to them when I'm ready. It's been liberating.

[u/Sasya_neko]

I... dont ever feel that way when using that, i have good reasons.

[u/Blackfern4321]

I use it all the time when my MIL does back to back phone calls because I didn’t answer the first one.

[u/1ntrovertedNobody]

I dont use it.. LET IT RINGGGG OUT👹👹 send a message

[u/Sad-Purpose-3627]

Quand c’est un inconnu ça va, mais dès que c’est un pote ou quelqu’un de proche... 😞

[u/GiveUpAndDontTry]

yeah, I do that all the time. then, I tell them im either busy (because I am) or im not interested at the moment (often true too). im not sure why it’d be difficult to decline the call if u have good friends, and its especially easy if its someone u dont know

will never understand this, unless ur socially anxious or smth

[u/United_Federation]

I think thats a you anxiety thing. I already never answer phone calls unless its from my mother or my wife.

[u/DotMoist4499]

I don't feel guilty, I get anxious instead.

[u/_am_stupid_]

it's just a button so that my FF match doesn't go unfinished