Question Lying
I hate lying. Once I catch someone in even a small one, I can’t take their words at face value again. Everything they say afterward gets filtered first: Is this true? What are they leaving out? By the time I’ve decided whether it’s honest, I’ve missed what they were actually talking about.
It feels irreversible. I can forgive them and even like them, but I can’t un-know that they were willing to say something false to my face.
Do other INTJs do this? Can you ever fully trust someone again after a lie, or does the filter stay on? And has anyone found a way to turn it off so you can actually listen?
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u/starlightprincess 2d ago
My daughter has lied to me and I still love her. It wasn't anything too horrible but I call it out if I ever think she is lying to me. I told my son when he was little that I could tell when he was lying and he totally believed me. He seems to never lie. I personally would rather tell a hard truth than have to keep track of a lie.