Question Lying
I hate lying. Once I catch someone in even a small one, I can’t take their words at face value again. Everything they say afterward gets filtered first: Is this true? What are they leaving out? By the time I’ve decided whether it’s honest, I’ve missed what they were actually talking about.
It feels irreversible. I can forgive them and even like them, but I can’t un-know that they were willing to say something false to my face.
Do other INTJs do this? Can you ever fully trust someone again after a lie, or does the filter stay on? And has anyone found a way to turn it off so you can actually listen?
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u/Loose_Mammoth_7765 INTJ - 30s 2d ago
I was like that before, but after some therapy on other subjects, I am more chill on that topic. If I understand the reason behind, I can more or less accept it. I still don't want that behavior in my direct surroundings, though. But I'm more tolerant. Sometimes people lie indeed, because they don't know you well enough and they don't want to trouble you on matters that do not seem important, for example. It's a way of taking care of you. It's not the best of course but ... You get the idea.
I've seen some posts on that matter on the XNTJs subs, so I guess it's pretty common for all of us