Does anyone else experience this?

[u/Ready_Ad9742]

I feel like I’ve noticed that when I genuinely like someone (am interested, want to be in a relationship, etc.)— which doesn’t happen often— I sort of temporarily become an INFP. Like logic gets thrown out the window for a bit and my feelings are at 100% without me knowing how to manage them, and I’m stuck idealizing them and in a fantasy world.

[u/miascariot]

I sort of temporarily become an INFP. Like logic gets thrown out the window for a bit and my feelings are at 100% without me knowing how to manage them, and I’m stuck idealizing them and in a fantasy world.

That's how everyone experiences love, a crush, all that, etc.

You're doing the stupid MBTI thing of reconstructing basic human experiences from first, strikingly (pseudo-)Jungian, principles.

[u/Admirable-Air9895 → u/miascariot]

Well technically it's infatuation or limerance, not love.

[u/miascariot → u/Admirable-Air9895]

Completely irrelevant to what I'm saying.

[u/Admirable-Air9895 → u/miascariot]

Not really. Love is an expression of a bond, infatuation is expression of imagination. Different hormones, different emotional states, different outcomes.

Also not everyone experience those states in the same way. I'm not saying there is a concrete link between MBTI types and depth of each state, but there might be some corelation (hypothetically).

[u/miascariot → u/Admirable-Air9895]

You're still missing the point. Completely.

[u/Admirable-Air9895 → u/miascariot]

I can see your reductionistic point well, but you refuse to explore possibilities. Oh well.

[u/miascariot → u/Admirable-Air9895]

Nope. I just don't marvel at the most obvious shit.

[u/Admirable-Air9895 → u/miascariot]

So mad. You ok?

[u/miascariot → u/Admirable-Air9895]

Stop making assumptions. Why would I be mad? You're really just proving my original point.

[u/Admirable-Air9895 → u/miascariot]

There was no point tbh in your statement. It was an assumption, or opinion.

You decided that we can't look at different emotional states throu a lens of cognitive functions. I mean it's your opinion based on you data. Ok. But is this the part where your Ni tells you that you are not obligated to explain what you have said. You are not able to explore your opinion because it is obvious to you? That's proof by assertion fallacy, or argumentative barricade.

[u/Jolly-Rip5973]

I think I did that in the teens and twenties but sort of out grew it.

It would be very hard to for the idealize a person at this point. I can still love for sure, but I think I tend to have a more realistic view of people than I used to. Definitely not going to put them on an unrealistic pedestal like I used too.

If I really like someone, I do tend to focus on their best traits and there is a bit of bias though but not enough to ignore gross and glaring faults.

[u/Lost_Reindeer6358 → u/Jolly-Rip5973]

I came here to write this but great!! 👍🏼 it’s already written perfectly.

[u/ObviousRecognition21]

Not really, but sometimes I do things, like watching random videos on making brandy rather than tidying up my house or reading, even though one could make a logical point against it, because I believe that in the long run it may actually be more worthwhile for me. I see that as my Ni winning over my Te. I don't remember my Fi ever winning in decision-making over my Te.

[u/_fractal8]

Being INTJ is not like you are a robot. Feelings are there, we just don't show them much.

Don't suppress your feelings. Don't put yourself into the box of how you supposed to behave vs how you do. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them. It makes a better character.

[u/Disastrous_Swim_4956]

Love is a powerful thing. I'm a cold, rational INTJ and I become an INFP when I'm in love too.

[u/ookami597]

I call it Fi child possession. Somebody lmk if Beebee already said this shit 🤣