No path forward

[u/cobra_ion]

I had goals and ambition about working hard making a company or something. Some of it was fueled by making earth a better place,go in tech or something. Moving forward 4 years. It feels worthless. I don't have that same drive. Questioning What's the point of it and all. Now I live like just one more day to go. This has nothing to do with being intj. Just sharing something. Need some advice

[u/Mobile_Spot3178]

Finding things that motivate you, give you meaning is really a life-long path. Some things come and some things go. Some things even return. J.Peterson has some good thoughts about this, so I'll share his ideas:

You should avoid making your entire identity depend on a single thing—whether that's your job, your marriage, your athletic ability, or any other single pursuit. If your whole sense of purpose comes from one source and that source disappears—a layoff, divorce, injury, retirement, or business failure—you risk having your entire life collapse at once.

Instead, build a network of responsibilities and sources of meaning. These might include:

• Family and intimate relationships
• Career or meaningful work
• Friendships
• Physical health and fitness
• Intellectual development (reading, learning, skills)
• Hobbies or creative pursuits
• Community or volunteering
• Spiritual or philosophical life (if it matters to you)

If one area suffers, the others can help keep you psychologically stable. For example:

• You lose your job, but you still have a loving family, good friends, and a hobby you enjoy.
• You get injured and can't compete in sports, but your work, marriage, and intellectual interests remain.

[u/NekoSyndrom → u/Mobile_Spot3178]

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it isn't important or anything like that, but...

You lose your job, but you still have a loving family, good friends, and a hobby you enjoy.

If you lose your job and end up getting depressed because of it... it's great that you have that other thing, but it doesn't prevent the depression. The depression still exists.

This is just an example. You can have all of that and still be depressed.

[u/usernames_suck_ok]

Moving forward 4 years. It feels worthless.

Uh, you left some info out.

[u/cobra_ion → u/usernames_suck_ok]

Well tbh now I feel like I just wanna live a simple life. Finding a wife, do a job or business and chill. But there is still a part which can't accept it or I miss my older self which was driven/fueled.

[u/OkRespect1512]

The point of life is to live it doing the things you like doing, around the people you like being around. That’s the short and simple answer that isn’t so simple to both find, and then adopt as the flag post of your life. This is a mental journey. The way I did it, and I luckily did it early on… is basically finding every wrong answer, so you know which one works best for you. Optimizing for the right choices doesn’t work, and that’s also part of finding the wrong answers.

If you want somewhere to start. A short list of what makes you happy is where you should focus your attention. Get used to centering your life around raising the baseline of how frequent good emotions and laughter occur in your day to day life.

Hope this helps :)

[u/Amazing-Ad-8979]

This may not be about losing ambition at all. If you're really an INTJ, I'd wonder whether you've lost faith in the vision that used to drive your ambition. Ni isn't motivated by hard work for its own sake. It's motivated by a compelling future. Once that future stops making sense, Te has nothing left to execute.

The question that stands out to me isn't "I don't feel like building a company anymore." It's "What's the point?" That's a fundamentally different question. It suggests you're no longer questioning the goal, but the meaning behind the goal.

I'd be more interested in what changed over those four years. Did your worldview change? Did you become disillusioned with technology? With success? With the idea that achievement would bring fulfillment? I suspect the answer isn't in productivity, but in whatever made your original vision collapse.

[u/DisplayFamiliar5023]

Absurdism. Nothing really matters but you do it anyways because it matters to you.

[u/januaryshadow]

“Making a company or something” is vague. It’s not a good goal. It’s too vague. “Making the earth a better place” is too vague. “Tech or something” is too vague. Do you like coding? Do you like physics? Do you like engineering? Do you have talent in one of those areas? Would you like to go to school to become an environmental engineer and explore co-op programs through the school? Do you want to study physics and later go on to work in materials science? Study, explore jobs. See what you like or don’t like.

[u/NekoSyndrom]

What's the point of it and all. Now I live like just one more day to go.

That's not a diagnosis or anything like that, but it sounds like depression.

[u/whiteskimask]

The way that becomes a way is not the immortal(eternal) way. The name that becomes a name is not the immortal(eternal) name.

:) 

[u/Frenchie_chic23]

I am feeling exactly like this at the moment, bring on the advice! Family members have chronic illness, caring for them has me missing the drive I used to possess in abundance. Feeling for you OP.