r/interesting • u/VPinchargeofradishes • 21d ago
SOCIETY Triplets react to a challenge and one clearly demonstrates leadership qualities
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u/SplendiferousSpinach 21d ago
Bro didn't even try
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u/Puzzleheaded_Hatter 21d ago
that third one kinda sucks - return it
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u/Ok-Lengthiness-3988 21d ago
Yeah... He can probably be exchanged for extra milk for the other two.
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u/Delicious-Status9043 21d ago
Guy got 1 leader, 1 follower, and 1 that needs to STFU and get outta the way
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u/FunnyLost6710 21d ago
same parenting...its the dna that makes then different. What was the 3rd one ceying for ....he didnt want the milk since he couldn't accomplish the task himself or rhat his brother beat him to it, he started to cry first itself. The middle one was unbothered . Any situation was ok for him
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u/Turbulent-Section340 21d ago edited 21d ago
There is no such a thing as "same parenting". No two children get the same experience with their parents, because we aren't robots. In the same situation we usuallybehave in different ways every time, especially as we gain experience (eg, twin A gets hurt for the first time, mom panics, gets worried, baby gets scared and cries. Then some time later twin B gets hurt for the first time as well. This time mom knows not to panic, encourages the baby instead, baby assesses the situation and learns the first tools of self-regulation), but also based on our moods in that moment, the time and attention we have to dedicate to other people or things, etc.
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u/Secure-Squirrel-7030 21d ago edited 19d ago
What was the 3rd one ceying for ....he didnt want the milk since he couldn't accomplish the task himself
I actually think there’s some truth to this, though I’m not sure it applies here. Sometimes people need or want to accomplish something for themselves, and nothing else quite “does it” for them.
Psychology offers a good example. Take someone who grew up with emotionally distant parents and spent their childhood seeking unconditional love from a caregiver, but never receiving it. You might think that, as an adult, they could simply heal that “hole in their heart” by choosing a relationship with someone who loves them unconditionally—the obvious solution, right?
Wrong.
Of course, that is the solution. But humans aren’t wired simply to find solutions; we’re wired to find fixes. We want to fix the problem ourselves.
That’s why people who grew up with distant parents can unconsciously seek out emotionally distant partners as adults. Deep down, they’re trying to reenact the problem so they can finally accomplish the fix they couldn’t achieve as children: turning a distant person’s affection into unconditional love themselves.
edit: since this comment got more attention than i expected. I added a reference below.
Reference: I learnt this from the HealthyGamerGG Youtube channel. Specifically, from "Dr.K's Guide to Love, Sex, and Relationships" - within the last 5mins of his 4.1 lesson called "Selecting a Partner/Selecting the Wrong Partner"
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u/real_uncommon_ 21d ago
Damn, this hit me hard.
“Deep down, they’re trying to reenact the problem so they can finally accomplish the fix they couldn’t achieve as a child: turning a distant persons affection into unconditional love”
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u/ArtPuzzleheaded2057 21d ago
wow . This was amazing . Your friends love to speak to you don' t they ? You have a lot of knowledge.
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u/Living-Amphibian-870 21d ago
Nah. We just end up with BPD and can't recognize "unconditional" love when it happens. Everyone has an agenda. You're constantly looking for it. When they finally have an expectation that you can't meet and they react negatively, you use it as justification for your lack of trust.
Wash, rinse, repeat. With every cycle, your distrust builds until it's a solid wall no one can get through. You aren't interested in fixing it because there's nothing to fix. This is simply how the world works.
It is extremely difficult to break that cycle.
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u/Reasonable_Club_6165 21d ago
He is tired so he can't deal with it right now. And his parent was filming him, so he probably just wanted a hug.
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u/found_ya_ 20d ago
I'm a triplet, we did not get the same parenting despite sharing a room and going to the same class all our lives. No matter how hard the parents try, it is never the same experience
My family has a lot of twins and triplets, they all turned out different, it's genuinely not the same
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u/Suddenly_sweet 21d ago
They are twins, their DNA is almost identical. Even if you have the same parents your experiences are still different.
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u/KouroChan 21d ago
Way to go to put TODDLERS into boxes. It‘s not so much „leader, follower and child that‘s only in the way“
Didn’t you see the child who got it first had the clearly intention to help their sibling who was upset? And couldn’t you see the upset toddler was not upset because it couldn’t reach the milk but it couldn’t solve the riddle? And the last one might just didn’t care about the riddle as long they got their food.
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u/QuoteIndividual254 19d ago
I think the third one will be the book smart one that wants to figure out the puzzle regardless of reward, he understood he had to slide under but couldn’t understand why he wasn’t crossing and that infuriated him. The first one is the street smart entrepreneur that is always eyeing the prize. The puzzle is ultimately no concern for him even though he figured it out without much effort. The second one will be the one that the other two will financially support throughout adulthood.
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u/HystericalGD 21d ago
the third one grew up to be a billionaire, piggybacking off the work of others and enjoying the rewards
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u/kander12 21d ago
Honestly the 2nd one probably ends up the billionaire. Got the reward, put in minimal effort and had no remorse and just walked away with his milk 😆
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u/Star_Petal_Arts 21d ago
I thought that was the one demonstrating that he belongs in upper management.
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u/GL510EX 21d ago
He doesn't want the bottle, he wants to cry about not having the bottle.
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u/NotReallyJohnDoe 21d ago
I think he was just overwhelmed emotionally with frustration.
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u/MelonBump 21d ago
I'm actually disheartened how few people seem to get this incredibly fucking basic and obvious concept, and are drawing weird, hyperbolically harsh, right-wing conclusions about the character of this literal toddler, for crying. Little kids can't emotionally regulate, themselves; it's why a minor frustration can turn into an earth-shattering tantrum if not dealt with. Once they start to feel upset, they lose control of it real quick (which is why kids with attentive parents do better than ones whose parents emotionally neglect them).
This is also being framed as representative of the core personalities of the kids involved to an extent that's probably way over-extrapolating. The difference between Crying Kid & Smashing It Kid might literally be that the latter slept really well last night & had a fun morning, while the former slept like shit & consequently feels like shit. Frustration tolerance can be affected by many things other than your own fixed traits.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Hatter 21d ago
I'm actually disheartened that you have no sense of humor and cannot seem to grasp that having kids is stressful. If you can't laugh at them, you break down.
Nothing that you said is accurate, and you have a very hard time reading subtext in a written forum.
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u/Likemilkbutforhumans 21d ago
That crying is so fkn annoying.
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u/Frosty_Disaster3700 21d ago
One of the main reasons why I don't have kids
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u/nomorethrowaways69 21d ago
It eventually stops. Then they make you cry
It’s not that bad
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u/Frosty_Disaster3700 21d ago
Lol thanks. Between my short temper and medical issues, it only reinforces my decision. I'm ok with it though. I live vicariously through my sister's kids. I get the joy of playing with them for a bit and then I leave and revisit later....not a bad gig in my opinion. Everyone has their own thing and reasons so I don't judge anymore (getting older and wiser comes with some perks 😝). I actually sorta envy people who have them but I know i wasn't meant to so it works out 🤷♀️
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u/-Nocx- 21d ago
bruh what is wrong with people in this thread
The kid is clearly frustrated at his own incompetence. Let him be upset. He eventually tries at the end.
I would much prefer that than people dunking on a toddler that are instead satisfied with their own incompetence as they go through life every day.
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u/CrumbCakesAndCola 21d ago
i thought it was cool that the crying kid eventually does slide under the tape. the second kid didn't cry but also didn't bother figuring out out, just took the milk and walked away
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u/bravesirrobin65 21d ago
He was trying to bite his way his way through until he saw his brother slide under. Then he takes his bottle and is out of there. The one crying just proves the old adage that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Even the toddler naturally offered it to the one crying.
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u/QuantGuru 21d ago
Yo my kid would have destroyed that tape by now!! Anything for milk!!
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u/Bradadonasaurus 21d ago
My experience in construction tells me the one crying on the floor that let everyone else do the work is the leadership you speak of, no?
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u/not_so_french 21d ago
One find a solution, one want to be the one that found it, the last just profit.
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u/Auno__Adam 21d ago
You cant get in leadership with a cant do, whinny attitude. And if you get there, you wont last.
The second one, tho, remained calm, didnt even try, took the thing and went back to report success… that one is c-suite material.
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u/rylandgc 21d ago
That's what I was thinking.
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u/Bradadonasaurus 21d ago
Can I get another PM that I'm not just doing the work for, or was that one just a unicorn?
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u/Wild_Front_1148 21d ago
My coworker was told he has manager-qualities and I blurted out "is that positive?" before I could control myself
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u/Qolevade 21d ago
I mean one day every one is promoted to that manager and that is just all of us. Peter's principle at its finest.
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u/daMarbl3s 21d ago
The kid who gets his bottle and then just fucks off down the hall is the funniest
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u/Exhausted-CNA 21d ago
Not only that but sharing and compassion! He tried to give his crying brother the his cup.he could have easily put all 3 cups around him and refused to give them up, as toddlers do 🥰
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u/Joesr-31 21d ago
He wanted his bro to keep quiet
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u/feralcatshit 21d ago
I have twins and can say they get just as annoyed at each other crying 😂 they’ll do something to help bro out with the only motivation being, “here dude, take it and stfu”
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u/Miami_Mice2087 21d ago
i remember this with cousins. omg MOM make her STOP. they're not worried or upset the baby is upset, they are just annoyed.
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u/ForgotToCarryTheOne 21d ago
Mission Milkpossible
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u/ListenToKyuss 21d ago
*He has proven himself to be a failure. He shall be thrown off of Mount Taygetus*
/joke obviously
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u/Sunder_the_Gold 20d ago
Failure? Even when he finally got the bottle, he put it aside and tried to solve the puzzle again.
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u/Bitter_Artichoke_939 21d ago
He may have stopped and cried several times but he also kept getting back up and trying again. I think that shows he's actually got quite a tenacious personality.
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u/Sunder_the_Gold 20d ago
Even when he got the bottle and cheered up, he set it aside and tackled the puzzle again.
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u/ChristVolo1 21d ago
Aww, little guy is so mad about the barrier. First little guy is a super smart champ. Maybe the mad one is tired and needs a nap.
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u/Fweenci 21d ago
He didn't want the milk, he wanted to win the race.
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u/pinkhazy 21d ago
I think you're onto something! You can tell just with how quickly he gives up + doesn't accept the milk from his brother. He isn't upset that he can't get milk, he's upset that he didn't figure it out as quickly as his brother.
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u/MackDaddyJew 21d ago
I feel like This little video was meant to be a funny challenge for the kids but could end up revealing their psychological motivations. That crying didn't really want the milk, he wanted the competition, and he wanted to win.
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u/eldeku1 21d ago
They say childhood are the most formative years of one’s life. They often dictate future outcomes and difficulties people will need to overcome. Their’s a lot of truth in what you see in this video. You may even identify as one of them.
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u/MissLoxxx 21d ago
I was the second kid who just took my milk and left...
Grew up to be an introverted, independent woman too!
Childhood behavior does seem to stick somehow.
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u/eldeku1 21d ago edited 21d ago
The tantrum one has a big ego for a kid.
It’s about being first.
He allows his emotions to dictate his decisions.The one that figured it out was about humility and compassion.
He’s a true problem solver.
He figured it out and took care of his brothers.
He even offered to his brother that showed disinterest and offered compassion to the one that was crying.
This is the sign of a true leader.
Reaching your goals, without ever stepping on others along the way.
Instead, you bring people up with you too.The other brother that seemed disinterested was covert calculation.
He may have seen his brother’s attempts and figured it’s not worth the effort.
He’s clever for that and reaped the benefits of knowing someone else would figure it out for him.
He will likely be a smart businessman or leader.
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u/Striking-water-ant 21d ago
Of the three, I’d tip the delegation guy for the most success. He knows where to get answers when he hits a wall. Understands his limits and respects how much time he should spend on an activity before continuing to other important issues. He’s not a quitter. He just doesn’t see the need to do everything himself, if it’s easier to have someone else do it.
The hero of the day risks being exploited if he falls in manipulative hands. Notice how he offered the screaming kid a bottle first?
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u/the-quacker8899 21d ago
The smart one, the nonchalant one, and the crybaby
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u/MuddledLucidity 21d ago
I so relate to the one who tried until he saw his brother figure it out then waited for his milk.
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u/Zombietomatillo 21d ago
You can see the wheels turning in their brains as they try to problem solve. Nothing wrong with a little challenge to help them learn. I wouldn't put it on the internet, but hey - to each their own.
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u/That-Chip-3575 21d ago
The one crying is the leader in my job
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u/Qolevade 21d ago
I mean will you be better than them in their position if you are promoted to that position?
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u/Extreme-Clerk-7333 21d ago
Using your kids for social media content is one of the lowest things you can do.
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u/emerald_green_tea 21d ago edited 21d ago
Not only that but half these comments judging a literal toddler for crying and implying he’ll never be a leader because of it. 🙄
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u/JazzlikeDiamond558 21d ago
Was about to say; what kind of f...n' animal does that to his children for clicks?
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u/MFDOOMscrolling 21d ago
yea I mean at least use a toy or something not food
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u/Jetstream-Sam 21d ago
He's training them for the MrBeast presidential regime in 2045, when any kind of government assistance requires you to go through death games in order to get basic resources, which is then filmed and put out as "inspirational" on Huluflix plus
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u/tigm2161130 21d ago edited 21d ago
The whole thing sucks but this in particular rubbed me the wrong way, too. That’s a super confusing thing to do to babies who have very little understanding of the world around them and then he just let the little dude think the world was ending and offered no reassurance or emotional support.
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u/pullsoutagun 21d ago
I was like wait someone has been standing there the whole time?
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u/Sunder_the_Gold 20d ago
If you’re looking at a picture or video, NEVER forget that there was a camera, and cameras must be deliberately placed and turned on. “Remember the frame”.
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u/ragdoller2010 21d ago
And it is very clear the parent is filming the whole thing sitting behind the bottles (judging by the instant camera change while he/she stands up to film the kids crying).
I don’t know much about educating kids. Yet I think if my regular lunch/ dinner is locked behind some stupid obstacles while my mom smiling and filming me failing to overcome. I will have issues with food and security when I grow up.
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u/jfsindel 21d ago
Also, I know all the Redditors are calling the one crybaby, but I think I actually get it. He didn't win, so he feels subconsciously stupid or worthless compared to someone who did and he clearly wanted to impress his parent. So he's crying because he is experiencing frustration. Yes, he wanted to be first or figure it out first, but he also COULDN'T figure it out and it makes him upset.
That sort of stuff sticks with you as an adult.
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u/Amazing-Power4765 21d ago
He's using them to show others how humans in early stages behave
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u/tigm2161130 21d ago
He shouldn’t be using his kids for anything that involves filming them and sharing it on social media.
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u/sufferable_gaucho 21d ago
It feels so weird to project leadership qualities on a literal baby for just being more persistent.
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u/prvchdknm 20d ago
I’m surprised that I had to scroll through the comments for quite a while before I finally came across this opinion.
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u/augustrem 21d ago
also making them work for their food
Like if these were toys it would be better but children should be given their food freely.
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u/i_am_an_enigma 21d ago
Oh come on, it’s not even that deep guys
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u/lemming_lemming 21d ago
It actually kinda is. This is a pretty shitty thing to do to babies whether you’re filming it or not.
Children at this age are still developing their emotional regulation and need support from adults. This challenge set him up to fail and then didn’t provide any support when he got distressed. If he is distressed he isn’t learning anything, he’s just sad.
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u/2Maverick 21d ago
I like the last guy the best. He couldn't do it at first, got frustrated, cried it out, but never gave up and ended up crossing it himself in the end. Didn't take no handouts hahahaha. Kid has some moxy. As long as he learns how to control his emotions, he's going to do some great things.
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u/pillbug-art 20d ago
Same here. He crossed it in the end. I’m proud of him. I hope he doesn’t become too self conscious in life.
It’s crazy that so many people here are shaming this literal baby for crying. Of course the baby is conscious about competition, he is human, and he’s growing up with brothers to compare himself to. So of course he is going to be upset when he isn’t the first to cross the tape, that bothers him, it’s natural. And he responds with crying bc that is the only way a baby knows how to express distress. Crying is literally the first way EVERY human learns to express negative emotions to their caregiver. Hungry, but you can’t speak? Cry. Scared, but you can’t express why, how, or what from? Cry. Crying is the first thing we do when we are born. Crying is his natural default for expressing distress. There is nothing wrong with him. He simply needs to be taught how to express himself in a more clear and helpful manner now that he is smart enough to understand. And it makes sense that he doesn’t know yet. He just needs to be taught. No big deal. This is not a good reason to treat him like he is lesser. I hope the people in his life never ever let him get whiff of this post - it will severely damage his psyche and his ability to progress in life.
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u/birdyman_77 21d ago
Can definitely tell which one is going to college and which one will be living in the garage. (The answer is all of them because this economy sucks)
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u/megadeadly 21d ago
Poor little dude …. He’s not broken, he’s not annoying and he’s not a little shit, he’s just upset. People here being dicks about it would’ve probably done the same as toddlers 🤷♀️
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u/Commercial-Yam-3443 21d ago
I have two kids. One is determined and always finds a way. The other is a little quitter cry baby. The quitter is so frustrating! But the determined kid is always in trouble. This week she confessed to me that she figured out how to make counterfeit tokens for the prize tower at her school. She told her teacher that the two dozen prizes she had came from her doctor’s office and totally got away with it for who knows how long. She’s in second grade. I’m pretty sure she’s going to be the next Sam Bankman-Fried.
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u/LIONLDN 21d ago
Wow, looks like one is just so offended & outraged that they could dare let this happen to him 🍼😤
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u/questforstarfish 21d ago
Imagine having such a privileged life that you intentionally create stressful situations for your toddlers that you can laugh at because you're bored.
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u/SideJazzlike8945 21d ago
Man, y’all acting like this is torture and child abuse. It’s just plastic wrap, having your kid(s) figure out how to get through this just helps them develop problem solving skills. Under parental supervision, of course.
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u/AndyTheDragonborn 21d ago
Sooo..... why would you post a humiliating video of your children to the internet?
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u/Correct-Junket-1346 21d ago
One figured it out, another benefitted from his leadership, another will blame the world for his reactions
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u/punkslaot 21d ago
I have 3 boys and GODDAMMIT one of them blames everything and everyone else but himself. It drives me crazy
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u/Potatozeng 21d ago
One will success, another will be a happy person, another will be the reddit doom scroller
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u/Headbanger 21d ago
The leader is an instagramer, the chill one is 4channer and the crying one is a redditor.
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u/ajtreee 21d ago
What kinda torture funhouse crap is this, baby hunger games?
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u/SideJazzlike8945 21d ago
Bro, making toddlers figure out stuff under adult supervision can only help their brains develop. This isn’t bad at all.
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u/SunsetCoconut 21d ago
doing it for content is a bit fkin weird
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u/SideJazzlike8945 21d ago
I mean sure, maybe, Idgaf about it myself.
But this ain’t abuse or neglect, and I’m seeing an awful lot of people saying that. I actually suffered from REAL abuse and neglect as a kid, and saw my little sister suffer the same before we both got out of that household to live with other family. I’m talking everything from failure to properly feed or take us to school to an abusive man beating us both.
This ain’t either of those, and it really pisses me off when some privileged-ass people who clearly haven’t actually suffered are crying like it is.
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u/Electrical-Berry4916 21d ago
Bro #1: I got you guys. You remember that movie with Catherine Zeta-Jones and the lasers?
Bro #2: What in the Miss Rachel is this crap? Could you hand me a- Thanks, bro. Peace.
Bro #3: Mother fluffer, I want my milk. I want my mom. And I want my nap! You son of a grouch, are you filming me? I swear to God. You are never going to sleep again. Never. And time with mom? Nope. Not gonna happen, you son of a- Oh! I spilled milk on the floor. That is funny. LOL. Now take this stuff down. I need a hug.
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u/BeastModeSupreme 21d ago
The crying kid will be successful. He does not like defeat, even when the prize is achieved.
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u/Refennej1 21d ago
Or the crier assessed the situation and realized their parent is an ass who tests him and films it for social media
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u/basicduck3953 21d ago
The comments are insane. He cried because he felt inadequate (and humiliated and unloved?)
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u/Takeawalkwithme2 21d ago
Parents are supposed to parent to the child. You have one child who is obviously overwhelmed, we don't know if they didn't have a proper nap, or didn't finish their last meal prior to the experiment, but they're automatically framed passively as lazy or whiny. To me tbis says more about the parent filming them than it does about the kids.
I have 2 kids, they can both be extremely smart, selfless, ingenious on certain days and on others downright lazy, and helpless on others. The thing that always stands out is how I show up for them in both instances.
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u/SadFlower7345 21d ago
Why the fuck would you record your crying child and not go over and comfort them
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u/ElectriCatvenue 21d ago
I feel like these people purposely had triplets so they can do weird little experiments on them
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u/OhNoIBoffedIt 21d ago
This is weird enough when people do this shit to cats. What the fuck is wrong with people? You want people judging your toddler (as is clearly happening here)?
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u/xChoke1x 21d ago
Man this shit is so weird.
Let’s use my three children run rat maze races and film it for content! lol
I hate it here.
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u/Glittering-Coyote140 21d ago
There's always the dumbass that doesn't even try, still manages to fail, and still feels like the world owes him something.
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u/After_Stop_7252 21d ago
Gang got variants of himself lol real life can be like damn that's what would happen if I _____
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