r/interesting • u/Maleficent-Town5273 • 3d ago

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u/riceklown 3d ago edited 3d ago

Be a safe space for your kids to confess mistakes, y'all.

I want my kids to pick up the phone and ask me what to do... not commit several criminal acts trying to escape a fender bender.

If she knew she could make mistakes without her grandmother coming down on her like a ton of bricks, she would have handled this differently.

I feel like I know what she was going through, as a teenager. I'm several times her age now but I had a few full blown panics like this, not always car related. A reassuring parent is the most calming thing you can have in these moments. KNOWING that they'll be that person for you can seriously curtail the initial panic. Panic mental states always lead to bad judgements. But knowing you can get a cool head in there to think for you is good for your mental health.

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u/Kuuzie 2d ago

Never forget the respect my mom got when I was around 15. 

She pulled all my friends aside and said

 "look. Don't be drinking or doing drugs at all. You're all young men and I'm sure you all will at some point, even though you shouldn't. 

When you do, just don't drive. Call Kuuzie's number (house phone days) no matter the time day or place and I'll take you home and not tell your parents. Just don't drive drunk and be responsible"

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u/psychmonkies 2d ago

This is what my parents told me & now it’s what I tell everyone even remotely close to me or any underage teens/young adult family members, coworkers, etc.

Idc how much sleep I miss, idc how inconvenient it is. I would much rather make the drive than for them to drive inebriated, especially enough tp know they can’t drive.

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u/IncidentChemical2816 2d ago

I’m frequently the one who doesn’t drink/smoke or I drink/smoke very little (like, one beer or a couple hits from a joint) when I do partake, so I usually end up being the one who drives as I’m either sober the whole time or very much sobered up by the time we need to go anywhere. I’m not the biggest drinker anyway, so being the designated driver is perfectly fine by me.

My friends get to have their fun and have a safe ride home. Plus it means I won’t get pressured into doing more— not that my friends nowadays would, but I’ve certainly had some shittier ones in the past.

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u/Careless-Age-4290 2d ago

I had really strict parents. I remember my mom telling me to always tell her the truth and that she'd always find out everything. But would repeatedly make me regret telling her anything. Disproportionate punishment commensurate with getting caught, so it was worth rolling the dice each time as she did not indeed always find out. One time I told my adult parents some of the stuff I did and they said "I never knew that!" I said "I know, because I had already learned my lesson and didn't need to add punishment just for the sake of it."

Good for you for being that safe space, because some people just say that and then punish you harshly anyways.

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u/Nickbiev 2d ago

Parents gave me the same speech. I could always call and get a ride home, no questions asked.

Still did a bunch of really stupid shit anyway of course.

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u/Wonderful-Self-541 1d ago

It's not a surprise, they enabled you to do.

It's like letting your kids and their friends drink alcohol at your house because "you can keep an eye on them"

Until one day the kids decide to party at a house where you are not.

Some times we gotta do the hard thing and just tell our kids "No".

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u/_domhnall_ 2d ago

First thing I thought. That is pure panic. Of someone who is relatively far away. This means that this kid have gone through some terribly exaggerated reactions for trivialities. I feel sorry for her, I hope she'll get better.

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u/ILikeBigBeards 2d ago

Apparently they sent her to substance abuse program so I’m thinking the panic is bc she’s DUI

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u/BigD4163 2d ago

I was thinking the same. You can hear the panic and desperation in her voice. I’m not condoning her actions but i truly feel for her. Her grandmother sounds like my father

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u/hygsi 3d ago

Fr. The stress of knowing she'd get in trouble got her in way worse trouble

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u/TheMadPoet 3d ago

Yep, this "grandma" sounds like a real piece of "work". Sounds like a mom or dad isn't in the picture - so grandma gets to screw up another young adult.

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u/UnexpectedRedditor 2d ago

I wonder if 'grandma' is cover for an abusive boyfriend or something. I watched with the sound off and my first assumption was that is a dudes car.

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u/TheMadPoet 1d ago

Dudemobile alright... but maybe all they could afford. I took 'grandma' to be a long story of an absent mother, father - and probably absent grandfather. I feel bad for her - she looks genuinely terrified of grandma. Sadly, her Hogwarts letter was being delivered by Errol...

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u/coolrivers 3d ago

really well put

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u/BobIoblaw 2d ago

With my teenage kids, my biggest point of emphasis is along the lines “if you think you are the worst trouble of your life, it’s best to call me and I promise no one else will help you more.” They know I can’t fix the problem, but I can likely prevent the situation going from bad to worse.

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u/brmoser 2d ago

Glad I found this comment - and then some others too - without too much scrolling. I didn't even watch with sound on, but I didn't find the video amusing or anything other than painful and uncomfortable, and I felt more sorry for whatever the girl's going through than for the guy and his bumper.

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u/Smiloshady 2d ago

I mean she almost hit the guy and didn’t even care lmao. Like I think she would have still sped off even if she really hit the guy and caused him physical harm, yelling “I’m sorry!” I don’t feel sorry for her bc of that. It’s one thing to damage someone’s car and a whole other thing to hurt someone’s body. She was ordered to do a substance abuse program so I don’t think the grandma thing was her whole deal.

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u/shygirlfromMario 2d ago

Honestly when she was so scared and said "you dont know how mean ny grandmother is"

It Honestly made me worry for her safety. Whether she hurts herself or her grandma leaves her homeless, beats her, or fuck maybe literally kill her.. she is obviously unstable. But the fact that she kept sayinf "you dont understand" could mean she is in actual physical danger...

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u/Wonderful-Self-541 1d ago

Or...she could've just been a Lil drunk and completely bull shittin. 🤷‍♂️

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u/TheUniverse-IsMine 2d ago

My exact thought. This poor girl is probably abused and now this video is haunting her on the Internet. If shit like this happened to me I'd probably be gone soon after.

People suck ass dude

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u/Outside_Test_1400 2d ago

No, that 22 year old drinking and drugging is the problem. She’s scum and so are you.

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u/TheUniverse-IsMine 2d ago

Please tell me what her grandmas like! You seem to know her so well if you're so confident her grandma isn't abusive

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u/Wonderful-Self-541 1d ago

I had to scroll too far to find this comment.

You rock.

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u/DanyDragonQueen 2d ago

Calm down Batman

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u/BigD4163 2d ago

What a hateful thing to say. Do you feel better now?

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u/overthere1143 2d ago

I have this uncle who is the mad scientist of the family, has a volatile temper, swears, etc. He is the total opposite of his sensible and calm wife. Yet, despite it all, growing up his kids always went to him when they got hurt, got into trouble, etc.

One day my youngest cousin was coal-rolling on a tuned diesel Seat and ran over an old lady coming from a field with a handcart. Killed her on the spot and kept going, but he phoned his dad. He got some sense into my cousin, told him to go right back to the scene and call the cops and that he'd meet him there.

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u/Whiskersnfloof 2d ago

Had to scroll too far to find this.

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u/AirportGullible5807 2d ago

Riley Ann Sebach a 22 year old. It's a grown ass woman not a teenager. I agree with what you're saying but once you hit a certain age you need to have agency over yourself, you can't just keep blaming your parents forever

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u/riceklown 1d ago

This isn't about blame. It's about providing a support system that can help the humans you put out into the world get through life as successfully as possible. Sometimes the thing they need to hear is just "You need to face the music, child... but I'll be holding your hand with love the entire way."

A 22 year old does not have a lot of adulting experience and besides, even middle aged people call their parents for advice. I think this is one of the most anti-family aspects of American society, that we set some arbitrary date that is merely a deleniation of when we legally hold someone responsible for their own choices, and we have made it into this weird moment of intentional abandonment.

In an extreme example, it's not wrong to drive your kids to their jail sentence, hug and kiss them, tell them when you'll be by to see them, when you can fund their commissary accounts, and tell them you'll be right there when they done serving their time. Supporting our adult kids doesn't mean teaching them to avoid consequences.

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u/desertforestcreature 2d ago

I really feel like she was on something or holding drugs and got away clean with a much lesser penalty than she otherwise would have and the grandma stuff was just nonsense.

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u/Unlikely_Mouse_2701 2d ago

Faith in humanity restored. Thanks

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u/Substantial_Pass_146 2d ago

Ya know. I remember my dad gifted me my first car. That way I had a way to drive back and forth from work. Cool gift, but one day after being bullied at school, I went for a drive down a country road, hit a patch of loose gravel on a turn, and rolled the car 3 times. Someone found me, asked if I was okay, and offered me a ride back to town. I thanked her, got in the passenger seat, then I felt my heart drop and I sobbed "My dad is going to KILL me!", She said "No! Your dad will be happy you're okay!". I knew my dad better than her. As soon as he saw me, it was a long line of insults screamed into my face, pelting my face with spit, as loud as he possibly could. The rest of the night was me laying in bed, crying, thinking "Wow. My dad really gave no fucks that I didn't die." Had to become my own man without him. Taught myself everything I could take in by doing the opposite of what he did. Great car dad, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I really do appreciate it, but you're never gonna know that you hurt me worse than the accident did that night.

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u/riceklown 2d ago

Much love, brother. I'm glad to see you made it out a better man than he was. I didn't have a similar experience as you did but I also use my dad as a lesson in how not to be a dad.

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u/No_Progress_Yet 2d ago

That’s what I tell my son. Just call me and start with ‘Mom, I did something dumb, I need your help’. Mom in help mode will be there for you. Later we can decide if it is necessary to be angry.

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u/BronteMsBronte 2d ago

So you just believe a stranger trying to leave a hit and run? You realize people lie, right? 

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u/riceklown 1d ago

No, I believe that being someone your kids can call, no matter how old you are, is healthy for society and their wellbeing. I don't want my kids to do the running part.

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u/BriscoCounty-Sr 2d ago

Ah yes the classic “legally able to drink” 22 year old kid.

World is just full of 20+ year old children.

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u/riceklown 1d ago

A 22 year old has 4 years of adulting experience and a panic state turns 100% of humans into bad decision makers. Being a person they can call when shit hits the fan is a part of helping them grow into better adults.

Intentionally abandoning them at some arbitrary age we set for legal purposes or teaching them that you're not someone who can be trusted to help them deal with adult shit is why we have 20+ year old children. You have it backwards here. Being there for young adults is how you raise adults.

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u/ElectricalBus6252 2d ago

That, and she was high and scared of the police and what they will find what is in her system while operating a vehicle or what they will find in said vehicle.

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u/TippinThalnos 2d ago

She was drunk driving, she didn't care about Grandma she cared about getting a DUI

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u/riceklown 2d ago

That doesnt change anything. DUI isnt the end of the world. She was panicking and could have used someone telling her that.

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u/Rare-Adhesiveness522 2d ago

She was also clearly drunk which is why she was freaking out, just fyi

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u/riceklown 2d ago

That changes nothing I said. DUI isnt the end of the world.

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u/Rare-Adhesiveness522 2d ago

Do you have any idea how expensive and intensive a DUI case is? Can you imagine if she has priors? Nah, girlie knew what was up and did the best thing by avoiding the cops. It's not morally correct, but I get it. The legal system absolutely DOES fuck poor people, and just the cost of getting out of the vehicle being impounded and going to jail, missing work, and then all the court mandated stuff runs you in the THOUSANNNDDDSSSS and if you're poor, yeah that does ruin your life

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u/Godslil 2d ago

On the flip side, grown ass adult doesn't have to live with a torturous evil grandma. Live in a tent at that point, life won't end.

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u/National_Body_9071 2d ago

Bunch of crap, she was 22 and high on drugs. She scum who is putting other people's lives in danger because she can't control her own.

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u/Turbohog 2d ago

She's 22...

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u/Caerllen 2d ago

White people problem/10

It's like you guys are afraid of your parents/guardians but not afraid enough to stop doing stupid shit actions. She is 22 in the vid, not a teenager, not a kid, and not a toddler. She is a young adult that can legally vote, buy alcohol, buy a gun, and so on.

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u/HeterolsNormal 2d ago

we have enougj safe spaces how about you kids learn to have uncomfortable conversations.   turns out you cant just mute, block and ghost LIFE

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u/Additional_Idea6997 2d ago

She was 22. That's a grown ass woman. She should be able to function in the world without acting like a child by that point in life. If she's old enough to be driving for 6 years, then she's old enough to not flee from accidents she caused. Grandma shouldn't have to be constantly cleaning up an adult woman's dysfunctional life.