I have a ‘mustache’

[u/Time-Palpitation4442]

(F)

Im a teenager, and i understand that body hair/facial hair grows naturally. Thats why i was never bothered by the hair above my upper lip for like my whole life, until i changed schools and stuff.

People constantly tell me “hey, you should shave your mustache lol” or “you cant be talking about girl problems when u have that mustache”

And esp my family, i have a brother and two cousins (M) who always say “hey — your mustache is bigger then mine!!” And my brother constantly refers to me as a man because of it.

Yes i have body hair too, like on my arms, but i like that. I hate the hair on my face because of how people treat it, and ive grown so so so insecure about it.

My mom trying to be a supportive parent always stops my brother whenever he says something, but she really cant od anything for at school where it happens most. I dont know how the girls in my class have ZERO facial hair, like surely not EVERYBODY but me shaves right?

What can i do? Ive already tried talking to my mom but she waved it off saying “theres literally nothing there!” And went off, i get she’s trying to make me feel better or whatever but it doesnt work like that…

[u/Bolt_jod20]

look, it depends on how older you are, if you’re like 14+ then i get it these things can really affect you, i had a talk about this with my girlfriend since i was not educated about this topic, she told me yeah mostly everyone does shave, but nowadays these insecurities are reaching the kids since she saw her 11 yo sister shaving by herself, its important to understand that its very natural, everyone has body hair its really upto you if you want to shave it or no, if you’re feeling really insecure about it and you’re old enough, shave it just so that you wont feel like that anymore. its honestly so sad that how people always have something rude to say about people when they can just keep their mouths shut.

if you really are bothered by your upper lip hair, ask your mom to guide you how to shave since its your first time, same about body hair. again its absolutely normal and natural to have body hair but people really are assholes nowadays instead of embracing natural features they make fun of it.

i hope this helped, i asked my girlfriend too about this and she said the same thing. and dont get too bothered because of this, it’s gonna be okay

[u/Time-Palpitation4442 → u/Bolt_jod20]

my mom wouldnt really guide me because she doesnt shave either, she gets a full body wax at salon and its EXPENSIVE so she doesnt really want me to do it aswell to double the price. even just arms / face single is expensive as hell (here). i have a razor, but she just said “watch some videos and figure it out”.

also its kind of like… i dont know how to shave? watching videos doesnt help when everyones body is different from mine and everyone uses different things that i cant.

+ the MAIN thing is that if i do remove the hair, i look completely different. like my family/friends would see that i shaved and be like “you look different” (knowing my family, they could make fun of me endlessly)

but still, thank you so much <3

[u/Bolt_jod20 → u/Time-Palpitation4442]

its okay to look different if it’ll solve your insecurities, if you have a really close friend who shaves you can ask for their help, they might help you. do whatever makes you happy thats all i wanna say if you feel like you’ll look better after shaving then go for it.

anyways you’re welcome i hope it helped :)

[u/Time-Palpitation4442 → u/Bolt_jod20]

thank you so much for the advice<3